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<blockquote data-quote="New Leaf" data-source="post: 675815" data-attributes="member: 19522"><p>Hi Colleen, I found this over in the PE forum, you can post there too, lots of us do, it applies to folks with adult aged children.....anyway, I thought you would find this reply interesting....</p><p></p><p></p><p>Here is the Brene Brown Ted Talk Cedar attached to the thread....</p><p>[MEDIA=youtube]iCvmsMzlF7o[/MEDIA]</p><p></p><p>I absolutely love her, thanks Cedar, for the intro!</p><p></p><p>Just thought this might be interesting to you to, Colleen, especially in your line of work.</p><p></p><p>The way you describe your son, seems that maybe he struggles with issues with perfectionism. He had such a "perfect" high school period, maybe when he got to college, he was so overwhelmed, and worried about being "perfect", he just kind of shut down?</p><p></p><p>Hmmmmm.</p><p></p><p>Thoughts?</p><p>(((HUGS)))</p><p></p><p>leafy</p><p></p><p>P.S. This may not seem relevant, but I will write of it. It has to do with dealing with perfectionism. My Dad passed a few years back. He was a stoic, not very expressive, but a driven man, athletic, all of the attributes you speak of in your son. I found out later, that my Dad struggled with alcoholism. He eventually went to A.A. and stopped drinking entirely in his 50's.</p><p>Why do I write this?</p><p>When Dan was in <em>hospice,</em> the spiritual advisor, spoke with me, and shared with me that my Dad was doing intense work on his history, and the biggest wall he encountered, was that he was not<em> perfect. </em>I felt so sad for my Dad, that this was the struggle he wrestled with at the end of his life. None of us are perfect, we all make mistakes.</p><p>But, evidently, according to this talk, there are people out there who struggle with this, and some<em> shut down</em>, with the weight of it. Maybe this is what is stopping your boy?</p><p></p><p>leafy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="New Leaf, post: 675815, member: 19522"] Hi Colleen, I found this over in the PE forum, you can post there too, lots of us do, it applies to folks with adult aged children.....anyway, I thought you would find this reply interesting.... Here is the Brene Brown Ted Talk Cedar attached to the thread.... [MEDIA=youtube]iCvmsMzlF7o[/MEDIA] I absolutely love her, thanks Cedar, for the intro! Just thought this might be interesting to you to, Colleen, especially in your line of work. The way you describe your son, seems that maybe he struggles with issues with perfectionism. He had such a "perfect" high school period, maybe when he got to college, he was so overwhelmed, and worried about being "perfect", he just kind of shut down? Hmmmmm. Thoughts? (((HUGS))) leafy P.S. This may not seem relevant, but I will write of it. It has to do with dealing with perfectionism. My Dad passed a few years back. He was a stoic, not very expressive, but a driven man, athletic, all of the attributes you speak of in your son. I found out later, that my Dad struggled with alcoholism. He eventually went to A.A. and stopped drinking entirely in his 50's. Why do I write this? When Dan was in [I]hospice,[/I] the spiritual advisor, spoke with me, and shared with me that my Dad was doing intense work on his history, and the biggest wall he encountered, was that he was not[I] perfect. [/I]I felt so sad for my Dad, that this was the struggle he wrestled with at the end of his life. None of us are perfect, we all make mistakes. But, evidently, according to this talk, there are people out there who struggle with this, and some[I] shut down[/I], with the weight of it. Maybe this is what is stopping your boy? leafy [/QUOTE]
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