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<blockquote data-quote="w_woody" data-source="post: 291056" data-attributes="member: 7714"><p>Well...this beats all I've ever heard.</p><p> </p><p>Well first D's grandmother called yesterday and asked about his birthday visitation which I called and volenteered for them to seem him on his birthday which is tommorrow. I said 3-6 at a local public park and that me and my dad will be there kind of hanging in the background keeping an eye on things. There's coverd pavillions, lots and lots of room. We had our daughter's 1st birthday there. Well mgm went through the roof wanting to know why it had to be supervised that they where going to pick him up and take him somewhere...and I was like look, you don't have visitation right now...you've not filed for it in court and I'm being nice and allowing the visitation. (last year on my son's birthday, they made one of the famous allegations to DCS the week prior and stopped sending him for over a month to visitation, I didn't even get to talk to him on his birthday.) I told her to call and disscuss with her attorney about it but I'd have him at the park. Then hung up.</p><p> </p><p>Well 10 minutes later his mother called me back and at first went off on me about not answering the phone. She says she calls 4-5 times a week and that the phone is either busy or just rings...I told her I can't help if we're on the phone or not at home...to call back and leave a message if we're not home and I always let him call them back. Then the conversation did a complete 180, and she actually told me that she knew he was in the best place for him to be. That she wanted him to go to our local school and she wanted to keep things the way they are she just wanted visitation. She blaimed all the DCS stuff on her mom and dad saying they still hold a grudge against me for the spanking and that her current husband simply "doesn't want to be in it" anymore. I was blown away and told her to contact her attorney if she was serious and we'll let them sort out some kind of permenant arraingement.</p><p> </p><p>I was flabbergasted.</p><p> </p><p>Anyway I've not talked to D about it yet, I've just told him that he gets to see his mom and grandparents tommorrow and he's really excited about it being his birthday. He's doing well with the chart and seems really hyped about doing well to earn the money. Especailly with all the new toys he's wanting to buy. His MGM got him in the habit of stoping by the store and picking up a new toy every week reguardless of how well he was doing or not doing, so he's feeling the sting of not getting that new toy every week and really wants to earn the cash to get them himself. I offered him a bonus today to help clean up for his party that we are having in our home this weekend and he jumped right on board...offering to vaccum and help with the dishes.</p><p> </p><p>I really appreciate all the wonderful and great advice. I've gotten D into a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) and a Pshchiatrist, now I've just got to find a neropsych to evaluate him. The Pshychiatrist left him on his medications...he's taking .5 mg of resperdol which like I told him I'm not sure if it's the medications or the change in environment or what that's helping him right now. I think what D really needs is a good evaluation, steady counciling, steady homelife, and a few months of not being jerked around so he can settle down. I kind of wish we could have gotten him a few weeks earlier so that we would have had more time with him at home before we have to send him off to school...but I'm working on that stuff now. So hopefully he'll be ready and more able by then...fingers are crossed.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="w_woody, post: 291056, member: 7714"] Well...this beats all I've ever heard. Well first D's grandmother called yesterday and asked about his birthday visitation which I called and volenteered for them to seem him on his birthday which is tommorrow. I said 3-6 at a local public park and that me and my dad will be there kind of hanging in the background keeping an eye on things. There's coverd pavillions, lots and lots of room. We had our daughter's 1st birthday there. Well mgm went through the roof wanting to know why it had to be supervised that they where going to pick him up and take him somewhere...and I was like look, you don't have visitation right now...you've not filed for it in court and I'm being nice and allowing the visitation. (last year on my son's birthday, they made one of the famous allegations to DCS the week prior and stopped sending him for over a month to visitation, I didn't even get to talk to him on his birthday.) I told her to call and disscuss with her attorney about it but I'd have him at the park. Then hung up. Well 10 minutes later his mother called me back and at first went off on me about not answering the phone. She says she calls 4-5 times a week and that the phone is either busy or just rings...I told her I can't help if we're on the phone or not at home...to call back and leave a message if we're not home and I always let him call them back. Then the conversation did a complete 180, and she actually told me that she knew he was in the best place for him to be. That she wanted him to go to our local school and she wanted to keep things the way they are she just wanted visitation. She blaimed all the DCS stuff on her mom and dad saying they still hold a grudge against me for the spanking and that her current husband simply "doesn't want to be in it" anymore. I was blown away and told her to contact her attorney if she was serious and we'll let them sort out some kind of permenant arraingement. I was flabbergasted. Anyway I've not talked to D about it yet, I've just told him that he gets to see his mom and grandparents tommorrow and he's really excited about it being his birthday. He's doing well with the chart and seems really hyped about doing well to earn the money. Especailly with all the new toys he's wanting to buy. His MGM got him in the habit of stoping by the store and picking up a new toy every week reguardless of how well he was doing or not doing, so he's feeling the sting of not getting that new toy every week and really wants to earn the cash to get them himself. I offered him a bonus today to help clean up for his party that we are having in our home this weekend and he jumped right on board...offering to vaccum and help with the dishes. I really appreciate all the wonderful and great advice. I've gotten D into a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) and a Pshchiatrist, now I've just got to find a neropsych to evaluate him. The Pshychiatrist left him on his medications...he's taking .5 mg of resperdol which like I told him I'm not sure if it's the medications or the change in environment or what that's helping him right now. I think what D really needs is a good evaluation, steady counciling, steady homelife, and a few months of not being jerked around so he can settle down. I kind of wish we could have gotten him a few weeks earlier so that we would have had more time with him at home before we have to send him off to school...but I'm working on that stuff now. So hopefully he'll be ready and more able by then...fingers are crossed. [/QUOTE]
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