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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 513861" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I have a TON of ideas, so it may take several posts to get it all out. I can't type a lot now but will be back soon.</p><p></p><p>PLEASE remember that an adhd child often will fidget when thinking or trying to concentrate. Neither of my boys can concentrate well with-o something to fidget with. thank you isn't even adhd and he needs the fidgets. I am using fidget to refer to a small toy or object that can be fiddled with and can keep fingers occupied. We had an Occupational Therapist (OT) try to get us to buy some thigns but they looked like what a party store sells for about 3-4 times the price. I went to a party store and bought a bunch of small balls, toys, etc... and always have a few different fun erasers for them. (Recently our dollar store had erasers shaped like dice - ten erasers for a dollar! and they are a HUGE source of delight and fidgeting for the whole family!)</p><p></p><p>Homeschooling offers a whole new world for learning. I don't know the system you are using, but have/am homeschooling kids for different reasons at different times. The approach you use and remembering that kids do well when they <strong>CAN</strong> and not when they want to, will go a very long way toward making homeschooling great for both of you. I haven't used many set curriculum but have used elements of some for different topics. I often did what are called thematic units. I took the concepts and wrapped them up into a subject of interest. When my oldest was in second grade we did a lot of dinosaur math, writing assignments, etc.... We also did a lot of other themes and it really helped him understand how the different subjects (math, english, etc...) all relate to each other. Wiz and I actually would go out to dinner and plan the themes we wanted to use for the next few months at least 2 times a year. He needed to feel that he could control his education (brought on largely by abuse he suffered at the hands of the adults in his school for grades k-1) and this really helped. He also saw that his input was welcomed and that I truly cared about what he was interested in.</p><p></p><p>If you don't already do a lot of science experiments, this is an amazing way to learn that will strengthen the bond between you. I can suggest some excellent books of experiments and even if they don't seem like lessons, they are or can be. If you need help figuring out how to put things together, send me a private message (pm) with specifics and I will help as much as I can. My dad was a science teacher so I have a ton of info about science experiments/projects. Also NEVER forget that cooking is chemistry and many other types of science and also is math. </p><p></p><p>A great way to enrich the curriculum is to have him do practical math as you shop and go through everyday life. I hear many many kids who go to traditional schools asking why they have to learn math and many don't make the connection between life and math and science. Homeschool kids often have a much better grasp of this. </p><p></p><p>I have to go but will add more later! </p><p></p><p>Some books that will help:</p><p></p><p>The Explosive Child by Ross Greene - seems counter-intuitive but it WORKS for our difficult children. Not a long/heavy read and super helpful.</p><p></p><p>What Your Explosive Child is Trying to Tell You by Dr Doug Riley. Amazing book that helps you understand what is behind the explosions and helps you figure out why your child is raging/exploding/tantrumming and helps figure out what is needed to help him through the problem. Dr. Riley is a member of this board andd pops in sometiems with very helpful info.</p><p></p><p>The Out of Sync Child by Kranowitz. This explains sensory integration disorder and how sensory problems work and hwo to help them. Can be very detailed but is invaluable, esp as a staggering percentage of adhd kids have sensory problems (tags on clothing, textures, picky eating, seeks or avoids various types of sensory stimulation) and sensory breaks actually enhance learning. I will post more about this later.</p><p></p><p>The Out of Sync Child Has Fun by Kranowitz. PACKED with truly fun things to provide the sensory input that our kids need - and with info on how to do those things as cheaply as possible!</p><p></p><p>This last is more for you. MANY if not most of us have a lot of anger to deal with. Why our child with all the problems? Why do they do what they do? and more and more sources of frustration/anger. THe more we, the parents, add emotion to a situation with a difficult child, the more emotion the child will bring. Then everyone is upset. She's Gonna Blow!:Real Help for Moms Dealing iwth Anger by Julie Ann Barnhill was hugely helpful for me. I was a screamer. My family screamed but I saw that it was hurting my kids. This book was different from a lot of others because it helped me know the signs that I was getting angry and then helped me see them BEFORE I exploded. From there it helped me figure out how to STOP the explosion before it happened. There are physical symptoms that you are getting angry and learnign to identify the early signs was instrumental in helping me go from a screamer to a listener - which benefitte my entire family not just Wiz and I. </p><p></p><p>You may not have anger problems. I just know that I did and that many of us have a lot of times when we don't know how to appropriately express anger. Most of us were taught that nice girls don't get angry, and that just is so harmful to you and to the entire family. </p><p></p><p>Welcome to our family! This truly is the place where you can get ideas, help, hope, and people who have truly been there done that and will NOT judge you at all.You are doing some amazing things with and for your son, and ti is great to meet you!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 513861, member: 1233"] I have a TON of ideas, so it may take several posts to get it all out. I can't type a lot now but will be back soon. PLEASE remember that an adhd child often will fidget when thinking or trying to concentrate. Neither of my boys can concentrate well with-o something to fidget with. thank you isn't even adhd and he needs the fidgets. I am using fidget to refer to a small toy or object that can be fiddled with and can keep fingers occupied. We had an Occupational Therapist (OT) try to get us to buy some thigns but they looked like what a party store sells for about 3-4 times the price. I went to a party store and bought a bunch of small balls, toys, etc... and always have a few different fun erasers for them. (Recently our dollar store had erasers shaped like dice - ten erasers for a dollar! and they are a HUGE source of delight and fidgeting for the whole family!) Homeschooling offers a whole new world for learning. I don't know the system you are using, but have/am homeschooling kids for different reasons at different times. The approach you use and remembering that kids do well when they [B]CAN[/B] and not when they want to, will go a very long way toward making homeschooling great for both of you. I haven't used many set curriculum but have used elements of some for different topics. I often did what are called thematic units. I took the concepts and wrapped them up into a subject of interest. When my oldest was in second grade we did a lot of dinosaur math, writing assignments, etc.... We also did a lot of other themes and it really helped him understand how the different subjects (math, english, etc...) all relate to each other. Wiz and I actually would go out to dinner and plan the themes we wanted to use for the next few months at least 2 times a year. He needed to feel that he could control his education (brought on largely by abuse he suffered at the hands of the adults in his school for grades k-1) and this really helped. He also saw that his input was welcomed and that I truly cared about what he was interested in. If you don't already do a lot of science experiments, this is an amazing way to learn that will strengthen the bond between you. I can suggest some excellent books of experiments and even if they don't seem like lessons, they are or can be. If you need help figuring out how to put things together, send me a private message (pm) with specifics and I will help as much as I can. My dad was a science teacher so I have a ton of info about science experiments/projects. Also NEVER forget that cooking is chemistry and many other types of science and also is math. A great way to enrich the curriculum is to have him do practical math as you shop and go through everyday life. I hear many many kids who go to traditional schools asking why they have to learn math and many don't make the connection between life and math and science. Homeschool kids often have a much better grasp of this. I have to go but will add more later! Some books that will help: The Explosive Child by Ross Greene - seems counter-intuitive but it WORKS for our difficult children. Not a long/heavy read and super helpful. What Your Explosive Child is Trying to Tell You by Dr Doug Riley. Amazing book that helps you understand what is behind the explosions and helps you figure out why your child is raging/exploding/tantrumming and helps figure out what is needed to help him through the problem. Dr. Riley is a member of this board andd pops in sometiems with very helpful info. The Out of Sync Child by Kranowitz. This explains sensory integration disorder and how sensory problems work and hwo to help them. Can be very detailed but is invaluable, esp as a staggering percentage of adhd kids have sensory problems (tags on clothing, textures, picky eating, seeks or avoids various types of sensory stimulation) and sensory breaks actually enhance learning. I will post more about this later. The Out of Sync Child Has Fun by Kranowitz. PACKED with truly fun things to provide the sensory input that our kids need - and with info on how to do those things as cheaply as possible! This last is more for you. MANY if not most of us have a lot of anger to deal with. Why our child with all the problems? Why do they do what they do? and more and more sources of frustration/anger. THe more we, the parents, add emotion to a situation with a difficult child, the more emotion the child will bring. Then everyone is upset. She's Gonna Blow!:Real Help for Moms Dealing iwth Anger by Julie Ann Barnhill was hugely helpful for me. I was a screamer. My family screamed but I saw that it was hurting my kids. This book was different from a lot of others because it helped me know the signs that I was getting angry and then helped me see them BEFORE I exploded. From there it helped me figure out how to STOP the explosion before it happened. There are physical symptoms that you are getting angry and learnign to identify the early signs was instrumental in helping me go from a screamer to a listener - which benefitte my entire family not just Wiz and I. You may not have anger problems. I just know that I did and that many of us have a lot of times when we don't know how to appropriately express anger. Most of us were taught that nice girls don't get angry, and that just is so harmful to you and to the entire family. Welcome to our family! This truly is the place where you can get ideas, help, hope, and people who have truly been there done that and will NOT judge you at all.You are doing some amazing things with and for your son, and ti is great to meet you! [/QUOTE]
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