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<blockquote data-quote="Alttlgabby" data-source="post: 242032" data-attributes="member: 6786"><p>Thank you everyone for your warm welcome. Yes, we have a miriad of problems. The therapist today saw the defiance of FN 1, and saw quite a bit of anger with FN 2. She is angry with me for not taking her to see her mother this past weekend, however, she fails to realize that I had my own mother with me who will open her mouth and tell their mother what she thinks of her and the situation she has put these children in. So, we did not go see Mom. She JUST moved 1-1/2 hours away from us into the same town as the girls oldest sister, whom we had gone to see. I was not sure what kind of welcome I/my Mom would get where their Mom is staying since she is staying with another family member. To me, it just wasn't worth it. </p><p>So, therapy was a treat today! LOL After we got home, she was even more angry with me and beating the back of her head against the wall because I told her she could not go outside and play. She thought that was just okay after her disrespect the last few days to me, and then today the disrespect to the therapist was the icing on the cake for me. </p><p>Anyway, thanks everyone for the welcome! As I said, I have been reading for awhile and I admire all of YOU for doing what you do for your children. I CAN sympathize whole heartedly even things have gotten just a tad easier on us with our daughter and her problems. We are looking at a change in medications for her around the 19th of this month, so we will see what happens there. We might be back to the screaming and yelling and crying and threats of suicide that we put up with for months before I finally found a psychiatric that would actually listen to me! I will ask the Psychologist for FD1 about the neuro on her. I also want to try to get her birth records from the hospital she was sent to shortly after birth. There are hardly any records for either of these girls at all. Their mother just was not very responsible and they have been in probably 12-14 schools in the past 6-7 years! When I got them, the state had to get birth certificates for them because Mom didn't even have one! The only records for shots are through the last school they were in. So, we are basically starting from scratch. We will get there. I just look at it as a bump in the road and it will smooth out, however, there will be more bumps ahead. LOL Things are not easy for them either and I know they are confused. At least the younger one is. The older one could care less about anything at all. We have issues with her not raising her hand to go to the restroom and then will just wet herself and doesn't seem to care at all. She will go like that all day at school unless someone notices and tells her to go the Dean's or to call me so that she can change. She has some socially unacceptable behaviors as well with people that she does not know or doesn't know well. She is in Resource at school, but school work at home is a struggle as far as getting her to tell the truth about what she is supposed to be doing, or whether she has a test coming up. I try to keep in touch with her teachers as much as can, or as much as I dare without them thinking I am some nutcase! LOL I am always asking questions about things on the homework/classwork/test listing. They always tell me she is doing well, however, her tests show she really does NOT understand the work unless she can get help or use notes strictly for that certain test. She doesn't know her times tables and she can't spell worth a flip and she is 14. I always feel as though I am riding her constantly and therefore make her feel awful, but her Mother NEVER made her do a thing! Not housework, not homework, etc.... so when asked, she can be very stubborn about doing things. She is slowly learning that her Aunt is even more stubborn than she is! I am always telling her that we are from the same bloodline, but I came first, therefore I have more experience at being stubborn and I always win! LOL I always try to stay optimistic and say, we WILL get where we need to get, but it is going to take time, but there are going to be times that we all get frustrated with the situation and each other. I allow them their tantrums with the understanding that this is all new to them, however, they have been in the foster system for about 16 months now with them being with us for 9 of them. April 24th will be our 1 yr anniversary with them, however, my brother has signed the TPr</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Alttlgabby, post: 242032, member: 6786"] Thank you everyone for your warm welcome. Yes, we have a miriad of problems. The therapist today saw the defiance of FN 1, and saw quite a bit of anger with FN 2. She is angry with me for not taking her to see her mother this past weekend, however, she fails to realize that I had my own mother with me who will open her mouth and tell their mother what she thinks of her and the situation she has put these children in. So, we did not go see Mom. She JUST moved 1-1/2 hours away from us into the same town as the girls oldest sister, whom we had gone to see. I was not sure what kind of welcome I/my Mom would get where their Mom is staying since she is staying with another family member. To me, it just wasn't worth it. So, therapy was a treat today! LOL After we got home, she was even more angry with me and beating the back of her head against the wall because I told her she could not go outside and play. She thought that was just okay after her disrespect the last few days to me, and then today the disrespect to the therapist was the icing on the cake for me. Anyway, thanks everyone for the welcome! As I said, I have been reading for awhile and I admire all of YOU for doing what you do for your children. I CAN sympathize whole heartedly even things have gotten just a tad easier on us with our daughter and her problems. We are looking at a change in medications for her around the 19th of this month, so we will see what happens there. We might be back to the screaming and yelling and crying and threats of suicide that we put up with for months before I finally found a psychiatric that would actually listen to me! I will ask the Psychologist for FD1 about the neuro on her. I also want to try to get her birth records from the hospital she was sent to shortly after birth. There are hardly any records for either of these girls at all. Their mother just was not very responsible and they have been in probably 12-14 schools in the past 6-7 years! When I got them, the state had to get birth certificates for them because Mom didn't even have one! The only records for shots are through the last school they were in. So, we are basically starting from scratch. We will get there. I just look at it as a bump in the road and it will smooth out, however, there will be more bumps ahead. LOL Things are not easy for them either and I know they are confused. At least the younger one is. The older one could care less about anything at all. We have issues with her not raising her hand to go to the restroom and then will just wet herself and doesn't seem to care at all. She will go like that all day at school unless someone notices and tells her to go the Dean's or to call me so that she can change. She has some socially unacceptable behaviors as well with people that she does not know or doesn't know well. She is in Resource at school, but school work at home is a struggle as far as getting her to tell the truth about what she is supposed to be doing, or whether she has a test coming up. I try to keep in touch with her teachers as much as can, or as much as I dare without them thinking I am some nutcase! LOL I am always asking questions about things on the homework/classwork/test listing. They always tell me she is doing well, however, her tests show she really does NOT understand the work unless she can get help or use notes strictly for that certain test. She doesn't know her times tables and she can't spell worth a flip and she is 14. I always feel as though I am riding her constantly and therefore make her feel awful, but her Mother NEVER made her do a thing! Not housework, not homework, etc.... so when asked, she can be very stubborn about doing things. She is slowly learning that her Aunt is even more stubborn than she is! I am always telling her that we are from the same bloodline, but I came first, therefore I have more experience at being stubborn and I always win! LOL I always try to stay optimistic and say, we WILL get where we need to get, but it is going to take time, but there are going to be times that we all get frustrated with the situation and each other. I allow them their tantrums with the understanding that this is all new to them, however, they have been in the foster system for about 16 months now with them being with us for 9 of them. April 24th will be our 1 yr anniversary with them, however, my brother has signed the TPr [/QUOTE]
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