Being a single mom, this have been a very tough few years for me. My son (20 yrs old) just got locked up for the umpteenth time. I've always supported him no matter where he was -- incarcerated and/or group home. Visiting, writting letters, accepting costly phone calls, etc. He got out of his last group home in July 2006 and move immediatly out of the house to a different city 3 hours away. When he got there he didnt have a job so I sent money to cover rent and some other bills. After about 4 months he moved back home. One month later he moved out but stayed nearby. There were 3 warrants out for his arrest. He got pulled over for a traffic issue and drugs were found in his car. Needless to say he is now in jail. When I went to my first visit with him, he totally belittled me and told me I NEVER helped him and its all my fault as to why he is in jail. (this certainly isnt the first time I've heard this. though I've always let it roll off my back). After trying to explain LIFE to him, I said "I dont have to sit here and listen to this" and he said "Then just leave!" My mom took over and I left the building in tears. She explained to him that I love him and have done many things for him through the years and what he said wasnt very nice. Now I'm not taking his phone calls (because they always bring me down and stab me in the heart) which is the only way we communicate. I guess I need time away from him. He calls my mom and asks her what is wrong with me. She explains it to him but he just doesnt listen! Since its been many years since I was alone, I just dont know what to do with myself. I've lived the last 20 years for my son. I know its not my fault that he is in there. He makes poor choices. Am I doing the right thing by not communicating with him? My mind is a jumbled mess right now.