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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 93512" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>I think what MWM was trying to say, is that a kid maybe CAN control herself if she can tell herself it's only for three days, but to have to think, "I must try to exert this really tight self-control ALWAYS," is sometimes too much.</p><p>I think it's like going on a diet - let's say the doctor tells you that you need to give up all sweet things including chocolate for three days prior to a medical test - you could manage that. But to be told you must give it all up permanently - some people, especially youngsters, would say, "No deal!"</p><p>Or you're a heavy smoker needing surgery, the doctor refuses to operate unless you stop smoking for a week before the surgery. If you desperately need the surgery, you might be able to do it but it would be so very hard. But if the doctor says, "Quit smoking NOW!" and there seems insufficient incentive, you would have a much harder time quitting.</p><p></p><p>I like Sara's quote, I think I'll print it out and stick it up on the wall.</p><p></p><p>Also "cognitive delays" - "cognitive" refers to intellectual function. Did she at any time seem 'slow' in her intellectual development? For example, was she ever struggling at school with the curriculum? Or maybe just one subject? it can all be relevant.</p><p></p><p>I also, like someone else, wonder who diagnosed the Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) and ODD, and who also said the girls were "healed". I'm very wary of "healed" - it tends to only get used in a religious context, health professionals would say "cured". From my experience, too often the word "healed" is used inappropriately and often leads to a lot of distress when the condition is found to only be dormant, not gone.</p><p>And from what you say - I would dispute "cured" or "recovered" too. It sounds a bit too optimistic and premature to me. So if the same person who pronounced "healed" is the same person making any diagnosis, I would get another opinion. Not that you WANT to find something wrong, just that if there IS something wrong you need to know soonest so you can get her help soonest. And also get help for yourself.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 93512, member: 1991"] I think what MWM was trying to say, is that a kid maybe CAN control herself if she can tell herself it's only for three days, but to have to think, "I must try to exert this really tight self-control ALWAYS," is sometimes too much. I think it's like going on a diet - let's say the doctor tells you that you need to give up all sweet things including chocolate for three days prior to a medical test - you could manage that. But to be told you must give it all up permanently - some people, especially youngsters, would say, "No deal!" Or you're a heavy smoker needing surgery, the doctor refuses to operate unless you stop smoking for a week before the surgery. If you desperately need the surgery, you might be able to do it but it would be so very hard. But if the doctor says, "Quit smoking NOW!" and there seems insufficient incentive, you would have a much harder time quitting. I like Sara's quote, I think I'll print it out and stick it up on the wall. Also "cognitive delays" - "cognitive" refers to intellectual function. Did she at any time seem 'slow' in her intellectual development? For example, was she ever struggling at school with the curriculum? Or maybe just one subject? it can all be relevant. I also, like someone else, wonder who diagnosed the Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) and ODD, and who also said the girls were "healed". I'm very wary of "healed" - it tends to only get used in a religious context, health professionals would say "cured". From my experience, too often the word "healed" is used inappropriately and often leads to a lot of distress when the condition is found to only be dormant, not gone. And from what you say - I would dispute "cured" or "recovered" too. It sounds a bit too optimistic and premature to me. So if the same person who pronounced "healed" is the same person making any diagnosis, I would get another opinion. Not that you WANT to find something wrong, just that if there IS something wrong you need to know soonest so you can get her help soonest. And also get help for yourself. Marg [/QUOTE]
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