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<blockquote data-quote="HeidiO" data-source="post: 123381" data-attributes="member: 4627"><p>Not meaning to sound defensive here: but we've had the conversation you outlined above more than once, since she was 12. Just because we have raised our kids in a conservative Christian environment doesn't mean we don't face the reality of life in this fallen world. Our difficult child has always had an open dialouge with us about the uncomfortable subject of sex/STD's/unplanned pregnancy. If you haven't figured it out by my signature, I was a teenage mom with her...so I also not only have the knowledge but the experience. </p><p>We've had many conversations with not only our difficult child, but her b/f, who we do like and we've welcomed him into our home, and fed weekend dinners like he's one of our own. But I completely disagree with you that it is my responsibility to hash out the topic one more time with her, if she wants to engage in premarital sex, I have explained that she needs to protect herself...but I won't provide it or pay for it. She has a job and so does the b/f, they're both adults. </p><p>She won't be living with him, his own family pays for his college tuition, and are also a Christian family. They have told him very clearly that his $$ aid will be severed from them if they choose to live together. He chose the $$.</p><p>Not that I don't appreciate your heart and the advice you gave, but I have some very strong convictions in this area, first because of my relationship with Jesus and secondly because I engaged in risky sexual behavior and wound up a teenage single mother. Been there done that.</p><p>That being said, no matter what I encourage her to do, (ie: get on birth control) she will do whatever she wants anyway. I did...</p><p>I hope and pray I won't be a grandma at 38 years old, but my own experience of having a baby so young made me grow up and go from being a difficult child to a easy child...well maybe not perfect, but much improved!</p><p>Today I have a very healthy, respectful relationship with my own mother.</p><p>So, sorry again if I am sounding defensive, but you struck a personal chord with me and with the fact that I am averaging 3 hours/night of sleep, please give me the grace to vent in this mostly anonymous forum.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="HeidiO, post: 123381, member: 4627"] Not meaning to sound defensive here: but we've had the conversation you outlined above more than once, since she was 12. Just because we have raised our kids in a conservative Christian environment doesn't mean we don't face the reality of life in this fallen world. Our difficult child has always had an open dialouge with us about the uncomfortable subject of sex/STD's/unplanned pregnancy. If you haven't figured it out by my signature, I was a teenage mom with her...so I also not only have the knowledge but the experience. We've had many conversations with not only our difficult child, but her b/f, who we do like and we've welcomed him into our home, and fed weekend dinners like he's one of our own. But I completely disagree with you that it is my responsibility to hash out the topic one more time with her, if she wants to engage in premarital sex, I have explained that she needs to protect herself...but I won't provide it or pay for it. She has a job and so does the b/f, they're both adults. She won't be living with him, his own family pays for his college tuition, and are also a Christian family. They have told him very clearly that his $$ aid will be severed from them if they choose to live together. He chose the $$. Not that I don't appreciate your heart and the advice you gave, but I have some very strong convictions in this area, first because of my relationship with Jesus and secondly because I engaged in risky sexual behavior and wound up a teenage single mother. Been there done that. That being said, no matter what I encourage her to do, (ie: get on birth control) she will do whatever she wants anyway. I did... I hope and pray I won't be a grandma at 38 years old, but my own experience of having a baby so young made me grow up and go from being a difficult child to a easy child...well maybe not perfect, but much improved! Today I have a very healthy, respectful relationship with my own mother. So, sorry again if I am sounding defensive, but you struck a personal chord with me and with the fact that I am averaging 3 hours/night of sleep, please give me the grace to vent in this mostly anonymous forum. [/QUOTE]
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