I adopted my two nieces 3 years ago. Their Mom died and Dad abused them, they were 7 & 9 when they came to live us with. The 9 year old is now 13. She has always have problems with authority is very manipulative. She recently had to go to a psychiatric hospital for 7 days for saying she was better off dead than following our rules. They started her on Risperidal and gave her a diagnosis of PTSD & ODD/Conduct Disorder. She has been in counseling for a couple years now, but it really doesn't seem to help. Does anyone else have kids that are manipulative? What can be done about this? The counselor wants me to talk to another child's parents because my niece reported she was calling her names. She said by talking to the other parents my niece will see that I am on her side and she can talk to us more. The girl did call her names just said that everyone is the car was acting crazy (heard this from driver). Sometimes I just want to cry, because I can never win and everything I do even if that is what she wants is wrong.