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<blockquote data-quote="Mysunshine" data-source="post: 148674" data-attributes="member: 5134"><p><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: #000000">Hope my answering questions is not too wordy. </span></span></span></p><p></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: #000000">Her pediatrician diagnosed her about age 5. I had taken her in because I was teetering on the edge of losing my mind. She was pitching a lot of fits; I guess is the best way to explain it. Of course she was very hyper, but it was not too different from most kids that age but it was more than hyper. She was always unhappy with something- One big problem she had was with her socks. Silly as it seems now, it was such a battle every morning, with her taking her shoes off over and over, trying to get her socks just right, and saying the seam part hurt her foot. I honestly cant remember the other issues but they were similar and often. Even though my son had adhd, it came as a surprise to me that this was the diagnosis that applied to her. We started the medications though, and it helped a lot. She was not tired or withdrawn or zombie like, just as if it lifted the hood of problems to reveal the sweet little girl under it. Before that I often felt that I love my child, but I dont like her. Every day when I picked her up from daycare or school, she would pitch major fits. </span></span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: #000000">Since then we have had a really nice period of mother-daughter closeness and Im sad to see it go, but that happens in most cases at her age. </span></span></span></p><p></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: #000000">She has done okay in the years since then, with some medication changes along the way. There have been complaints about hyperactivity in class which was when medications were adjusted. </span></span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: #000000">This year her 2 younger teachers have complained about her interruptions in class and being disruptive and distracting to other kids. All of these things are not unexpected to me. What she has been doing a lot of though, is tapping a pen for example, and when told to stop doing that, starting some other equally distracting thing like tapping her foot. She has done this to me at home. She watches me to see if I get irritated and if I give her the poker face and keep working on whatever I was, she intensifies her efforts. </span></span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: #000000">She is getting into lots of trouble with strikes they get for misbehavior, but the school has not contacted me. She did get called in to the principals office when a boy complained she hit him in PE. She got out of it though. </span></span></span></p><p></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: #000000">Friends- few. She just doesnt fit in. She is very empathetic and generally kind, but I guess not girly enough. She plays sports with the boys during PE. Transition to middle school has been hard. Last school year there were a few sleep overs but this year no friends close enough to do that. She is not a cast out or recluse- she gets along on the surface, but doesnt have any close friends. </span></span></span></p><p></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: #000000">Family medical- Adhd both sides of her family, along with depression and bipolar on my side. I have bipolar 2 hypomania, on medications for 10 years. </span></span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: #000000">A major thing in the back of my mind is that she is often said to be like my niece who put my sister thru He*! When she went through this age, running away, drinking, drugs, early sex, etc, like her mom did at that age. People who knew my niece at that age say difficult child is just like her- hope she doesnt put you through what she put her mom through. </span></span></span></p><p></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: #000000">I agree some of this is her hormonal changes. But Ive also read that this is the time when mental health issues really rise to the surface.</span></span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: #000000">difficult child has so much potential to succeed academically and in sports, but her bad attitude and being disrespectful to adults is going to hold her back and, I fear, close doors. </span></span></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mysunshine, post: 148674, member: 5134"] [FONT=Times New Roman][SIZE=3][COLOR=#000000]Hope my answering questions is not too wordy. [/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Times New Roman][SIZE=3][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Times New Roman][SIZE=3][COLOR=#000000]Her pediatrician diagnosed her about age 5. I had taken her in because I was teetering on the edge of losing my mind. She was pitching a lot of fits; I guess is the best way to explain it. Of course she was very hyper, but it was not too different from most kids that age but it was more than hyper. She was always unhappy with something- One big problem she had was with her socks. Silly as it seems now, it was such a battle every morning, with her taking her shoes off over and over, trying to get her socks just right, and saying the seam part hurt her foot. I honestly cant remember the other issues but they were similar and often. Even though my son had adhd, it came as a surprise to me that this was the diagnosis that applied to her. We started the medications though, and it helped a lot. She was not tired or withdrawn or zombie like, just as if it lifted the hood of problems to reveal the sweet little girl under it. Before that I often felt that I love my child, but I dont like her. Every day when I picked her up from daycare or school, she would pitch major fits. [/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Times New Roman][SIZE=3][COLOR=#000000]Since then we have had a really nice period of mother-daughter closeness and Im sad to see it go, but that happens in most cases at her age. [/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Times New Roman][SIZE=3][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Times New Roman][SIZE=3][COLOR=#000000]She has done okay in the years since then, with some medication changes along the way. There have been complaints about hyperactivity in class which was when medications were adjusted. [/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Times New Roman][SIZE=3][COLOR=#000000]This year her 2 younger teachers have complained about her interruptions in class and being disruptive and distracting to other kids. All of these things are not unexpected to me. What she has been doing a lot of though, is tapping a pen for example, and when told to stop doing that, starting some other equally distracting thing like tapping her foot. She has done this to me at home. She watches me to see if I get irritated and if I give her the poker face and keep working on whatever I was, she intensifies her efforts. [/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Times New Roman][SIZE=3][COLOR=#000000]She is getting into lots of trouble with strikes they get for misbehavior, but the school has not contacted me. She did get called in to the principals office when a boy complained she hit him in PE. She got out of it though. [/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Times New Roman][SIZE=3][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Times New Roman][SIZE=3][COLOR=#000000]Friends- few. She just doesnt fit in. She is very empathetic and generally kind, but I guess not girly enough. She plays sports with the boys during PE. Transition to middle school has been hard. Last school year there were a few sleep overs but this year no friends close enough to do that. She is not a cast out or recluse- she gets along on the surface, but doesnt have any close friends. [/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Times New Roman][SIZE=3][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Times New Roman][SIZE=3][COLOR=#000000]Family medical- Adhd both sides of her family, along with depression and bipolar on my side. I have bipolar 2 hypomania, on medications for 10 years. [/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Times New Roman][SIZE=3][COLOR=#000000]A major thing in the back of my mind is that she is often said to be like my niece who put my sister thru He*! When she went through this age, running away, drinking, drugs, early sex, etc, like her mom did at that age. People who knew my niece at that age say difficult child is just like her- hope she doesnt put you through what she put her mom through. [/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Times New Roman][SIZE=3][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Times New Roman][SIZE=3][COLOR=#000000]I agree some of this is her hormonal changes. But Ive also read that this is the time when mental health issues really rise to the surface.[/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Times New Roman][SIZE=3][COLOR=#000000]difficult child has so much potential to succeed academically and in sports, but her bad attitude and being disrespectful to adults is going to hold her back and, I fear, close doors. [/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [/QUOTE]
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