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<blockquote data-quote="buddy" data-source="post: 483384" data-attributes="member: 12886"><p>arrggg explorer shut down and I wrote a whole response to you!</p><p></p><p>OK I will try to make sure I get this straight, if I am not clear in what I write, Q is bugging the snot out of me right now for some reason. But I am standing firm because I have devoted my whole day to him! </p><p></p><p>1. A child 100% does not need to be behind academically to qualify for an IEP. There are some categories that have that as part of criteria but that is like specific learning disability. The disability area DOES need to affect school progress... that INCLUDES social and emotional and behavioral development. SOOO they are just not doing their jobs.</p><p></p><p>2. I would suggest not letting the SD take the lead. IF she writes a formal request in writing, doesn't have to be fancy, then sends it registered or certified mail so that it is date stamped....the clock will be ticking. That is LAW as you know so nothing they can do but respond. Then she will have options for appeal etc. AS time goes on this is going to be very important because even if they get away with this for a while, if he continues to struggle and it is shown that they have neglected him and she has fought, it will work in her/his favor at mediation etc. Have her start ONE notebook recording every phone call, letter written etc. Keep every single due process paper. </p><p></p><p>3. I respectfully disagree with you (doesn't mean I am right) about labels. This is not the older days when people could reveal diagnoses. Once in the system it is all confidential. Only people who can find out are those that mom chooses to tell. (within the SD, on a need to know basis only too) As you know, all children with behaviors are labeled and in my humble opinion, having the appropriate label is better than "rude" "disrespectful" "attention seeking" "poor parenting" "under achiever" etc. These gossip labels DO follow a child thru school. A legal disability category can open doors for assistance, accommodations, and entrance into higher education even when other indicators might block them due to their disability.</p><p></p><p>4. A neuropsychologist evaluation for this child sounds super important. We say that alot here, but he is a kid who seems like it is a really good idea. They are the ones who can help sort thru a variety of options, not focused more toward developmental, neuro, mental health, etc. Their role is to look at behaviors and development and associate it with how our brains work. They can help with differential diagnosis. No psychiatrist worth their salt would not WANT this information and be grateful for it. They can be one to two day evaluations. They will look at ability, development, health history, emotional, adaptive skills and behavior level, communication, social skills, motor, processing, etc..... really good stuff if you are in a reputable setting.</p><p></p><p>5. Ritalin/concerta worked great for my son. There are many kids who it can cause aggression and other negative symptoms. I am sure she is watching closely. I knew it was a good thing day one for us. Not like a medication that takes time to build up or anything. but may take time to find the right dose.</p><p></p><p>6. kids can have a variety of sensory integration issues and they can be different for different senses. Do you have the out of sync child? there is a companion activity book. My son can't function when he is doing gross motor activities. Loses what little impulse control he has. In a gym it is complicated by sensitivity to the smell and sound in a gym. BUT he is a sensory seeker when it comes to touch and he really is over the top. can't judge how hard he does things and he needs pressure and heavy work to help him regulate neurologically. Trying different things can help, but you might be setting one thing off while trying to address another without the Occupational Therapist (OT) sensory profile and assessment being done. Do you have any Occupational Therapist (OT) friends who could just grab a protocol and do it as a favor for you? I have done that (shhhh) for people. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Is kaiser the assessment place? as in kaiser hospital? Anyway, here there are small children's therapy clinics and they do Occupational Therapist (OT) and Speech Language Pathologist (SLP) evaluations. that might be still really worth your investigating. You may want to advise her to do auditory and language processing evaluations too to cover the bases. </p><p></p><p>I always did both....school and private at the same time. A neuropsychologist evaluation can help with any disagreements with the school. </p><p></p><p>so, these are just thoughts. Of course it sounds like she is doing so much and may be just at a place where to survive emotionally she needs to try one thing at a time. I get that. if anything I said here is not a good fit, no worries. Of course we just throw out things to eachother and what helps is great and what doesn't may help another. </p><p></p><p>I think you are an amazing grandma and your grandkids are probably about the luckiest kids to have such a fun grandma. sounds like you really know your stuff so your perspective will be really nice here! I hope you keep us informed.</p><p></p><p>I love the explosive child and have used methods there for years. </p><p></p><p>So glad you are here, thanks for your patience answering questions etc. I sure hope your daughter feels like she can check in once in a while. But it can be overwhelming so maybe you can be the buffer for now....</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="buddy, post: 483384, member: 12886"] arrggg explorer shut down and I wrote a whole response to you! OK I will try to make sure I get this straight, if I am not clear in what I write, Q is bugging the snot out of me right now for some reason. But I am standing firm because I have devoted my whole day to him! 1. A child 100% does not need to be behind academically to qualify for an IEP. There are some categories that have that as part of criteria but that is like specific learning disability. The disability area DOES need to affect school progress... that INCLUDES social and emotional and behavioral development. SOOO they are just not doing their jobs. 2. I would suggest not letting the SD take the lead. IF she writes a formal request in writing, doesn't have to be fancy, then sends it registered or certified mail so that it is date stamped....the clock will be ticking. That is LAW as you know so nothing they can do but respond. Then she will have options for appeal etc. AS time goes on this is going to be very important because even if they get away with this for a while, if he continues to struggle and it is shown that they have neglected him and she has fought, it will work in her/his favor at mediation etc. Have her start ONE notebook recording every phone call, letter written etc. Keep every single due process paper. 3. I respectfully disagree with you (doesn't mean I am right) about labels. This is not the older days when people could reveal diagnoses. Once in the system it is all confidential. Only people who can find out are those that mom chooses to tell. (within the SD, on a need to know basis only too) As you know, all children with behaviors are labeled and in my humble opinion, having the appropriate label is better than "rude" "disrespectful" "attention seeking" "poor parenting" "under achiever" etc. These gossip labels DO follow a child thru school. A legal disability category can open doors for assistance, accommodations, and entrance into higher education even when other indicators might block them due to their disability. 4. A neuropsychologist evaluation for this child sounds super important. We say that alot here, but he is a kid who seems like it is a really good idea. They are the ones who can help sort thru a variety of options, not focused more toward developmental, neuro, mental health, etc. Their role is to look at behaviors and development and associate it with how our brains work. They can help with differential diagnosis. No psychiatrist worth their salt would not WANT this information and be grateful for it. They can be one to two day evaluations. They will look at ability, development, health history, emotional, adaptive skills and behavior level, communication, social skills, motor, processing, etc..... really good stuff if you are in a reputable setting. 5. Ritalin/concerta worked great for my son. There are many kids who it can cause aggression and other negative symptoms. I am sure she is watching closely. I knew it was a good thing day one for us. Not like a medication that takes time to build up or anything. but may take time to find the right dose. 6. kids can have a variety of sensory integration issues and they can be different for different senses. Do you have the out of sync child? there is a companion activity book. My son can't function when he is doing gross motor activities. Loses what little impulse control he has. In a gym it is complicated by sensitivity to the smell and sound in a gym. BUT he is a sensory seeker when it comes to touch and he really is over the top. can't judge how hard he does things and he needs pressure and heavy work to help him regulate neurologically. Trying different things can help, but you might be setting one thing off while trying to address another without the Occupational Therapist (OT) sensory profile and assessment being done. Do you have any Occupational Therapist (OT) friends who could just grab a protocol and do it as a favor for you? I have done that (shhhh) for people. Is kaiser the assessment place? as in kaiser hospital? Anyway, here there are small children's therapy clinics and they do Occupational Therapist (OT) and Speech Language Pathologist (SLP) evaluations. that might be still really worth your investigating. You may want to advise her to do auditory and language processing evaluations too to cover the bases. I always did both....school and private at the same time. A neuropsychologist evaluation can help with any disagreements with the school. so, these are just thoughts. Of course it sounds like she is doing so much and may be just at a place where to survive emotionally she needs to try one thing at a time. I get that. if anything I said here is not a good fit, no worries. Of course we just throw out things to eachother and what helps is great and what doesn't may help another. I think you are an amazing grandma and your grandkids are probably about the luckiest kids to have such a fun grandma. sounds like you really know your stuff so your perspective will be really nice here! I hope you keep us informed. I love the explosive child and have used methods there for years. So glad you are here, thanks for your patience answering questions etc. I sure hope your daughter feels like she can check in once in a while. But it can be overwhelming so maybe you can be the buffer for now.... [/QUOTE]
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