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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 351154" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>With any ODD-like symptoms, a book that a lot of us have found helpful is "The Explosive Child" by Ross Greene. If you go over to the Early Childhood forum you can find in the stickies some discussion on how to adapt these books to younger children. It could give you some ideas with regard to discipline.</p><p></p><p>See if you can get a copy of the book from your local library, it could explain things a lot better than I can. I also found following the advice in the book to be much easier than the previous struggle. No charts, no stickers, no constant monitoring - just some pre-planning and then consistent follow-through.</p><p></p><p>But it won't make your child perform tasks he is unable to do. For example, sitting still may be impossible for him and to punish him for not being able to do what he can't do, is cruel. It's like punishing a blind child for not copying accurately from the blackboard, or like punishing a deaf child for not coming when called. You have to help a child who has deficits and not punish for them. And often, schools or parents don't always 'get' this. They think the child has problems in this area because they haven't been trained enough, when it's not a matter of training.</p><p></p><p>You need to adapt to the child as much as the child needs to adapt to you. Someone with a medical condition needs compassion and also needs to find ways to adapt. Michael J Fox has Parkinson's Disease. This means, in him, that his body is constantly moving and twitching. He can control the twitch a little bit but he can't stop it. So what he has done as an actor, is move with it, to turn a twitch into what looks like a deliberate movement. If you watch his acting (from a time after his Parkinson's) you see him constantly moving, but you don't necessarily recognise the movement as Parkinson's. He has found a way to make it work, as best as he can.</p><p></p><p>Another example - difficult child 3. He woke with nausea two days ago, said he needed to be still or it made his nausea worse. He had work to do on the computer, but he told me he couldn't do it because he knows that when he is at the computer, he is constantly swivelling in his chair and loving. So instead he chose to recline on the couch and read his textbook. He was able to do this and be physically still. It was interesting - he knos his body and this kowledge is also an important part of his adaptation.</p><p></p><p>I wrote about similar things at length in another newbie's thread, "new here - suspect Asperger's in son". Have a look. Not that I can say your son has Asperger's, it could be something else, but a lot of what I had to say could help you too.</p><p></p><p>Welcome. Sorry you need us but glad we can be here for you.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 351154, member: 1991"] With any ODD-like symptoms, a book that a lot of us have found helpful is "The Explosive Child" by Ross Greene. If you go over to the Early Childhood forum you can find in the stickies some discussion on how to adapt these books to younger children. It could give you some ideas with regard to discipline. See if you can get a copy of the book from your local library, it could explain things a lot better than I can. I also found following the advice in the book to be much easier than the previous struggle. No charts, no stickers, no constant monitoring - just some pre-planning and then consistent follow-through. But it won't make your child perform tasks he is unable to do. For example, sitting still may be impossible for him and to punish him for not being able to do what he can't do, is cruel. It's like punishing a blind child for not copying accurately from the blackboard, or like punishing a deaf child for not coming when called. You have to help a child who has deficits and not punish for them. And often, schools or parents don't always 'get' this. They think the child has problems in this area because they haven't been trained enough, when it's not a matter of training. You need to adapt to the child as much as the child needs to adapt to you. Someone with a medical condition needs compassion and also needs to find ways to adapt. Michael J Fox has Parkinson's Disease. This means, in him, that his body is constantly moving and twitching. He can control the twitch a little bit but he can't stop it. So what he has done as an actor, is move with it, to turn a twitch into what looks like a deliberate movement. If you watch his acting (from a time after his Parkinson's) you see him constantly moving, but you don't necessarily recognise the movement as Parkinson's. He has found a way to make it work, as best as he can. Another example - difficult child 3. He woke with nausea two days ago, said he needed to be still or it made his nausea worse. He had work to do on the computer, but he told me he couldn't do it because he knows that when he is at the computer, he is constantly swivelling in his chair and loving. So instead he chose to recline on the couch and read his textbook. He was able to do this and be physically still. It was interesting - he knos his body and this kowledge is also an important part of his adaptation. I wrote about similar things at length in another newbie's thread, "new here - suspect Asperger's in son". Have a look. Not that I can say your son has Asperger's, it could be something else, but a lot of what I had to say could help you too. Welcome. Sorry you need us but glad we can be here for you. Marg [/QUOTE]
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