Hello all, Thanks for all the advice I've been given thus far. D has had his first two days of school and so far so good. His teacher has been a real help and seems to not mind me poking my head in every morning and evening to see how well he's doing. I am going to closely monitor him over the next few weeks or so and then gradually give him some space and see if he stays on track. I've given the teacher all the info I can about what to look for and how to respond to his melt downs and he seems to really enjoy this new school. I think preparing him by telling him this was an oppertunity for a fresh start for him seemed to help him adjust. His BM hasn't called since tuesday, his first day was Wed. and I can't understand why. She wanted him to go to the school that is a block or so from our home but after speaking with the Special Education Admin. she informed me that principle wouldn't work with D only suspend or expel him at the first chance he got. So I decided it best to send D to another school where the Principle and Teachers are used to dealing with problem kids. Plus this school has made a huge push forward to help improve reading in their school and that's D's worst subject. They do 90 min of uninterrupted reading every morning and an additional 90 througout the day for kids who aren't reading at the right level. D reads well, but fast and his comprehension suffers for it. D's BM also sent my attorney's the papers she said she would, allowing D to stay in my home full-time, however, she wants him every weekend in VA, No Support, and I have to drive half way 70 plus miles to pick him up and drop him off. I said no way and sent her what I would agree to and haven't heard anything. They still haven't filed for visitation and they still haven't gotten a date for our hearing. His BGM is still sending letters, she sent 2 this week, one I gave to him and the other which went on and on about how he was missing Vacation Bible School and all the fun air blown rides they where going to have, not to mention she closed with "Please come home soon." as if he has a choice about it. A couple of really positive things happend this week as well. Example: We went to visit my mom and my neice who is 5 came over and really started roughing D up, smacking and kicking...me too...she's a little firecracker...my sister (who for all intents is a complete and opposite of me) told D to go ahead and hit her daughter back, not to let her beat up on him. D told his aunt that he couldn't that it was on his allowance board that he can't hit, kick, or throw anything or he'd loose his allowance for the day. She looked at him and finally had to get on her daughter and tell her to quit, herself. I was very proud of D and told him so. He's really digging this allowance board...next week will change it up drastically though since he's started school...I'm not sure how he'll adjust but so far he seems keen on earning his allowance.