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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 295563" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Welcome! Your daughter sure seems to be determined in the ways only a difficult child can be. I can remember being trapped on the landing of our townhouse by Wiz. I couldn't go up or down without one of us falling and he was hitting so fast and hard it was impossible to contain him. One of these incidents happened when I was just 4 weeks out of spinal surgery in my neck and still had the neck brace on. A fall could have paralyzed me for life. Just thinking about it brings that panicky feeling back.</p><p></p><p>ODD is just a name, in my opinion. It doesn't help you really help the child, or tell you what is behind the behaviors. Search out a neuropsychologist and a developmental pediatrician. Whatever answers you get keep searching until the answers and treatments feel right to YOU. Even though she is not your bio daughter, she is still your daughter. You have instincts that will guide you through this maze. If something feels really wrong then avoid it or stop it or whatever so that you find what feels right. I am maybe not explaining it well, but those instincts are there to help your child get what is needed for a healthy life. The really big mistakes I have made as a parent have been when I ignored my instincts. </p><p></p><p>You really NEED a child and adolescent psychiatrist to help you. Don't let the pediatrician prescribe medications to help with her behavior. Peds just do not know enough about psychiatric medicine to be useful and safe in suggesting medications. I think medications may be needed at some point, and getting a relationship with a certified child and adolescent psychiatrist will be needed. </p><p></p><p>It would be very useful to have her evaluated for sensory integration disorder (Sensory Integration Disorder (SID)). This is when the brain processes sensory information abnormally. It can be a huge part of treatment to help our kids, and treatment does not involve medicines or other invasive measures. Brushign therapy for Sensory Integration Disorder (SID) has been shown to create new pathways in the brain so that the info is processed more effectively. I can't think of another treatment that can claim this, so I am passionate about it. You need a PRIVATE Occupational Therapist (Occupational Therapist (OT)) who is knowledgable about Sensory Integration Disorder (SID) to evaluate her. Schools have OTs but they focus only on how academics are affected. Private OTs are more reliable esp since finding a problem means the school has to pay for treatment - so school OTs are less likely to identify something as a problem (NOT that they try to deny services but they do get pressure to treat as many kids in the smallest amt of time with a teeny amt of money.)</p><p></p><p>Over the years you will (and have) acquire large amounts of info about your daughter. All sorts of tests, doctors, therapists etc... will weigh in. You are going to need a way to keep all the info, test results, notes from doctor appts, etc organized. Years ago some of the women on this forum came up with a general guideline for a Parent Report. It is tremendously useful because you will have the info at your figertips to fill out all those infernal forms at the doctor's office and to show the docs what you have done/learned/tried and how it worked out. You can give docs, school, etc a copy of the report or part of it (you don't want to share all the info with everyone, esp not with school, usually) and they can have it in the file to refer to. Every doctor/professional who has seen mine has found it to be truly useful. You can find the outline in the Board Help/FAQ section of the board. here is teh link to it: <a href="http://www.conductdisorders.com/forum/showthread.php?t=10" target="_blank">http://www.conductdisorders.com/forum/showthread.php?t=10</a> (It is called Parent Input/Multidisciplinary evaluation if you want the title of the thread).</p><p></p><p>Lots of hugs to welcome you to our little corner of the internet!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 295563, member: 1233"] Welcome! Your daughter sure seems to be determined in the ways only a difficult child can be. I can remember being trapped on the landing of our townhouse by Wiz. I couldn't go up or down without one of us falling and he was hitting so fast and hard it was impossible to contain him. One of these incidents happened when I was just 4 weeks out of spinal surgery in my neck and still had the neck brace on. A fall could have paralyzed me for life. Just thinking about it brings that panicky feeling back. ODD is just a name, in my opinion. It doesn't help you really help the child, or tell you what is behind the behaviors. Search out a neuropsychologist and a developmental pediatrician. Whatever answers you get keep searching until the answers and treatments feel right to YOU. Even though she is not your bio daughter, she is still your daughter. You have instincts that will guide you through this maze. If something feels really wrong then avoid it or stop it or whatever so that you find what feels right. I am maybe not explaining it well, but those instincts are there to help your child get what is needed for a healthy life. The really big mistakes I have made as a parent have been when I ignored my instincts. You really NEED a child and adolescent psychiatrist to help you. Don't let the pediatrician prescribe medications to help with her behavior. Peds just do not know enough about psychiatric medicine to be useful and safe in suggesting medications. I think medications may be needed at some point, and getting a relationship with a certified child and adolescent psychiatrist will be needed. It would be very useful to have her evaluated for sensory integration disorder (Sensory Integration Disorder (SID)). This is when the brain processes sensory information abnormally. It can be a huge part of treatment to help our kids, and treatment does not involve medicines or other invasive measures. Brushign therapy for Sensory Integration Disorder (SID) has been shown to create new pathways in the brain so that the info is processed more effectively. I can't think of another treatment that can claim this, so I am passionate about it. You need a PRIVATE Occupational Therapist (Occupational Therapist (OT)) who is knowledgable about Sensory Integration Disorder (SID) to evaluate her. Schools have OTs but they focus only on how academics are affected. Private OTs are more reliable esp since finding a problem means the school has to pay for treatment - so school OTs are less likely to identify something as a problem (NOT that they try to deny services but they do get pressure to treat as many kids in the smallest amt of time with a teeny amt of money.) Over the years you will (and have) acquire large amounts of info about your daughter. All sorts of tests, doctors, therapists etc... will weigh in. You are going to need a way to keep all the info, test results, notes from doctor appts, etc organized. Years ago some of the women on this forum came up with a general guideline for a Parent Report. It is tremendously useful because you will have the info at your figertips to fill out all those infernal forms at the doctor's office and to show the docs what you have done/learned/tried and how it worked out. You can give docs, school, etc a copy of the report or part of it (you don't want to share all the info with everyone, esp not with school, usually) and they can have it in the file to refer to. Every doctor/professional who has seen mine has found it to be truly useful. You can find the outline in the Board Help/FAQ section of the board. here is teh link to it: [url]http://www.conductdisorders.com/forum/showthread.php?t=10[/url] (It is called Parent Input/Multidisciplinary evaluation if you want the title of the thread). Lots of hugs to welcome you to our little corner of the internet! [/QUOTE]
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