Hello to all and Happy new year. My name is Lisa and I have a 16 y/o daughter with alot of issues. A diagnosis of ODD/ADHD is pending and she is in counseling - again. Her sister is 22 and out of the house but she also had some serious things going on. I personally have some significant social issues (due to prosopagnosia) which I believe compound things. I do not have Apsergers but most of my social problems are incredibly similar to those who do. This is probably much more so with outsiders/strangers looking in than with my actual children but who knows? I would definately welcome some unbiased input on this whole thing. My child lies, steals, wets the bed and torments animals. She has 'an answer for everything' and nothing is ever her fault. Apparently, everything wrong in this world is MY fault. She is on a relentless campaign to malaign me and cause me problems. This is presumably her way to justify her desire to move out. I have a tendancy to assume truthfulness and goodness in others as well as to just assume that when presented by these incomprehensible behaviors from my own children (who I have always done my best to do right by) that I must be missing something important and therefore not getting it. I think that alot of my problem has stemmed from the fact that I have been literally unable to believe that my own children could be trying so hard to hurt me and cause me hardship. Therefore I have just been trying to understand rather than remedy. For 15 years. Now I think I finally do - at least enough to move forward. Pretty sad, huh? I have a tendancy to be extremely logical/reasonable and literal. Unfortunately, teens do not. It is like we are on 2 separate planets. I have some really amazing friends I can talk to and a wonderful long-term (not live in) boyfriend. Without them I would have lost it before now.