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Next medication change, round.... something
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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 407507" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>When difficult child 3 was a toddler and we were beginning to realise there was a problem, we had two GPs. I needed to get a GP referral to a specialist in order to get difficult child 3 assessed. My main GP was away, I had to see the junior partner who didn't like me and was, frankly, a problem. He did not want to write the referral, so I said, "If you're right and I am wrong, this doctor will quickly tell me so. But if there is something wrong, the sooner we identify what it is, the sooner this kid gets the help he may be needing. So if you're right - the specialist will back you up. You win. If I'm right - your patient gets help. You win. Let's do it."</p><p></p><p>He wrote the referral, possibly just to shut me up, and the rest is history. Interestingly, a few months after the diagnosis I had to take difficult child 3 back to this jerk because the kid was running a very high fever. I asked the GP to check his ears and throat as well, the doctor said there was no point. "If he was in pain, he would let you know," the doctor said.</p><p>I said, "No, he doesn't react to pain that way. He carries on as normal even if he has tonsillitis or middle ear infection."</p><p>The doctor kept arguing (would have been quicker to have a look, frankly) and I finally had to say, "His responses to pain are different, he has a diagnosis of autism."</p><p>The doctor then threw me out of the room and while he was standing at the door holding it open, he said (in front of a waiting room full of patients), "Stop trying to find things wrong with your kid!"</p><p>I quietly replied, "You wrote the referral to the specialist who made the diagnosis. Ring him up and argue with him, I'm just repeating what I was told."</p><p>That night we had difficult child 3 at the hospital - croup, tonsillitis and middle ear infection.</p><p></p><p>When dealing with doctors who "know better", sometimes you have to give them what sells. Stroke their egos. And never say, "My child has X." Instead you say, "My child has a diagnosis of X." That way if the doctor begins to argue with you and say, "That's ridiculous!" then you simply respond with, "I didn't diagnose him. Argue with the doctor who did."</p><p></p><p>With people in general, the higher the intelligence, the higher the mental instability, quite often. Not always. So professions where they have to be really smart, they often can be really unstable, or sensitive, or whatever. Go gently with them to get what you want out of the situation. But never forget - YOU are the customer, hiring their services. You can always sack your employees.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 407507, member: 1991"] When difficult child 3 was a toddler and we were beginning to realise there was a problem, we had two GPs. I needed to get a GP referral to a specialist in order to get difficult child 3 assessed. My main GP was away, I had to see the junior partner who didn't like me and was, frankly, a problem. He did not want to write the referral, so I said, "If you're right and I am wrong, this doctor will quickly tell me so. But if there is something wrong, the sooner we identify what it is, the sooner this kid gets the help he may be needing. So if you're right - the specialist will back you up. You win. If I'm right - your patient gets help. You win. Let's do it." He wrote the referral, possibly just to shut me up, and the rest is history. Interestingly, a few months after the diagnosis I had to take difficult child 3 back to this jerk because the kid was running a very high fever. I asked the GP to check his ears and throat as well, the doctor said there was no point. "If he was in pain, he would let you know," the doctor said. I said, "No, he doesn't react to pain that way. He carries on as normal even if he has tonsillitis or middle ear infection." The doctor kept arguing (would have been quicker to have a look, frankly) and I finally had to say, "His responses to pain are different, he has a diagnosis of autism." The doctor then threw me out of the room and while he was standing at the door holding it open, he said (in front of a waiting room full of patients), "Stop trying to find things wrong with your kid!" I quietly replied, "You wrote the referral to the specialist who made the diagnosis. Ring him up and argue with him, I'm just repeating what I was told." That night we had difficult child 3 at the hospital - croup, tonsillitis and middle ear infection. When dealing with doctors who "know better", sometimes you have to give them what sells. Stroke their egos. And never say, "My child has X." Instead you say, "My child has a diagnosis of X." That way if the doctor begins to argue with you and say, "That's ridiculous!" then you simply respond with, "I didn't diagnose him. Argue with the doctor who did." With people in general, the higher the intelligence, the higher the mental instability, quite often. Not always. So professions where they have to be really smart, they often can be really unstable, or sensitive, or whatever. Go gently with them to get what you want out of the situation. But never forget - YOU are the customer, hiring their services. You can always sack your employees. Marg [/QUOTE]
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