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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 304900" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>Yeah, I know. It's something I struggle with when I've started with writing things out just to vent. That's why it has taken me a month to get this from 6 pages to two. LOL! I'll keep working on it.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>difficult child will be 15 then (he's 14 now) and we aren't even near a bus route. The retail and business area closest to us (within 5 miles) is on a road that's way too busy for riding a bike on and we have no sidewalk. difficult child wants to be a vet and that means lots of college. I want to can the job requirement because it is meant for the older teens to make sure they are employable when they get out of high school. Under our situation when difficult child isn't even old enough to drive, I think it's pointless as long as he's doing something constructive when school isn't in session. difficult child and I have even discussed him going to summer school to get ahead academicaly and take driver's ed. I could use my lunch hour to transport him back home or to someplace else (even a job or volunteeer work at an animal place) and pick him up after work. </p><p></p><p>Anyway, the main point was that it is preferable for many reasons to discuss options that meet the PO's objective instead of just ordering typical things and giving me the attitutde that it's my problem to figure out how to do it, like the probation officer did. I wouldn't care so much if difficult child was able to accommodate the requirements without my involvement but at his age he can't. I do think though, that difficult child has a better chance of succeeding if the requirements support the few constructive goals/ambitions he has.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Agreed and already done the first time PO brought it up. LOL! If he'd get one trained for therapuetic mentoring it would be great (and can the therapist), however, I think he's getting one who is more of an extension of the PO because of course, that's what Department of Juvenile Justice funding covers. This is my issue with the system- they want to "take over" all aspects of the kid's life but then don't address all the needs. The PO gave me the name of the company contracted by them and I looked it up. The mentor does show up and visit difficult child and occasionally might take him somewhere, but it specifically describes him as someone trained to assists PO's in monitoring the kid and stuff like that. Not that this can't be useful, too, but a therapuetic mentor could do a lot more good and still report to the PO if difficult child was where he should be, compliant, etc.</p><p></p><p>Thanks for the comments! Any others?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 304900, member: 3699"] Yeah, I know. It's something I struggle with when I've started with writing things out just to vent. That's why it has taken me a month to get this from 6 pages to two. LOL! I'll keep working on it. difficult child will be 15 then (he's 14 now) and we aren't even near a bus route. The retail and business area closest to us (within 5 miles) is on a road that's way too busy for riding a bike on and we have no sidewalk. difficult child wants to be a vet and that means lots of college. I want to can the job requirement because it is meant for the older teens to make sure they are employable when they get out of high school. Under our situation when difficult child isn't even old enough to drive, I think it's pointless as long as he's doing something constructive when school isn't in session. difficult child and I have even discussed him going to summer school to get ahead academicaly and take driver's ed. I could use my lunch hour to transport him back home or to someplace else (even a job or volunteeer work at an animal place) and pick him up after work. Anyway, the main point was that it is preferable for many reasons to discuss options that meet the PO's objective instead of just ordering typical things and giving me the attitutde that it's my problem to figure out how to do it, like the probation officer did. I wouldn't care so much if difficult child was able to accommodate the requirements without my involvement but at his age he can't. I do think though, that difficult child has a better chance of succeeding if the requirements support the few constructive goals/ambitions he has. Agreed and already done the first time PO brought it up. LOL! If he'd get one trained for therapuetic mentoring it would be great (and can the therapist), however, I think he's getting one who is more of an extension of the PO because of course, that's what Department of Juvenile Justice funding covers. This is my issue with the system- they want to "take over" all aspects of the kid's life but then don't address all the needs. The PO gave me the name of the company contracted by them and I looked it up. The mentor does show up and visit difficult child and occasionally might take him somewhere, but it specifically describes him as someone trained to assists PO's in monitoring the kid and stuff like that. Not that this can't be useful, too, but a therapuetic mentor could do a lot more good and still report to the PO if difficult child was where he should be, compliant, etc. Thanks for the comments! Any others? [/QUOTE]
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