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<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 678467" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>Hi Kalahou,</p><p></p><p>I'm so sorry you are having to deal with this. I've been there too many times. I think it's great that you have decided to not bail him out. If he is anything like my son he may amp up his requests with trying to lay on guilt. Just be on your guard and be prepared for whatever he might say. I always hated it when my son was in jail, I always worried about him but I finally got to a point where I realized that my son didn't hate being in jail as much I hated it for him. Here's how I look at it. If our d_cs really don't like being in jail then they need to stop doing whatever it is that lands them there. (oh that's right, it's never their fault, someone else did it)</p><p></p><p>I think sending your son a letter is a good idea. The only thing I can suggest is to keep it very simple. I would tell him that you are not bailing him out and that you have confidence in him that he will figure it out on his own and close it with you love him. The more simple you can make it the better. I learned from dealing with my son to be very careful what I wrote him while he was in jail as he would use it against me. If I suggested to him that he needed to work on anything he would lash out that I didn't believe in him and twist and turn things around.</p><p></p><p>((HUGS))</p><p></p><p><img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/staystrong.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":staystrong:" title="staystrong :staystrong:" data-shortname=":staystrong:" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 678467, member: 18516"] Hi Kalahou, I'm so sorry you are having to deal with this. I've been there too many times. I think it's great that you have decided to not bail him out. If he is anything like my son he may amp up his requests with trying to lay on guilt. Just be on your guard and be prepared for whatever he might say. I always hated it when my son was in jail, I always worried about him but I finally got to a point where I realized that my son didn't hate being in jail as much I hated it for him. Here's how I look at it. If our d_cs really don't like being in jail then they need to stop doing whatever it is that lands them there. (oh that's right, it's never their fault, someone else did it) I think sending your son a letter is a good idea. The only thing I can suggest is to keep it very simple. I would tell him that you are not bailing him out and that you have confidence in him that he will figure it out on his own and close it with you love him. The more simple you can make it the better. I learned from dealing with my son to be very careful what I wrote him while he was in jail as he would use it against me. If I suggested to him that he needed to work on anything he would lash out that I didn't believe in him and twist and turn things around. ((HUGS)) :staystrong: [/QUOTE]
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