Well, time for a brief update. I turned 50 a few weeks ago. The build up to it was the painful part. Now it's here, it seems like most any other day. husband is throwing a shin-dig at our house on Saturday. There will be a crowd. L will be there with her new boyfriend. It will be the first time we meet him. She says he's nice. Of course she prefaced that with how wealthy he is. I always said that if she would just set a goal and go for it she would be ok. Maybe this is it? More power to them if it works out. M is off the radar. We haven't heard from him since last summer when he was hospitalized. He's not using his cell so it's pretty much a useless thing that we are paying for in case he should ever decide to be in touch. We've sent messages and emails to ask him to come, but he won't answer. I've checked his FB and he has a new photo up. It's one taken of him in my parent's kitchen when he was about 5 with two of my sister's bff's children. It either came from my parents or my sister. Either way, good luck with that. I told husband that without a doubt he is paying for their kindness with tales of what a bad mother I am. He tried to pooh-pooh it, but he know I was on target. He has essentially the same goals as L, but in reverse. To find a wealthy woman to pay his way in life. Sadly, there aren't many of those around. I believe he's waiting for my parents to die so that he can inherit, thinking that is going to pay his way in life. He knows very little about the real cost of living. I can't decide whether they will decide that he is spawn of the devil - me - and not worthy, or if they will give him something just to spite me. Probably a combination of the two. In any case, I'm looking forward to Saturday, and to be quite honest I'm hoping M doesn't show. I just don't have it in me to put up with the stress.