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<blockquote data-quote="Suz" data-source="post: 347976" data-attributes="member: 29"><p>Steely,</p><p> </p><p>ExDH and I made decisions we needed to make based on our family and our experiences. You are the only person who can make those decisions for yourself and what you can live with. I am simply reporting my experience and what worked for us.</p><p> </p><p></p><p> </p><p>I completely agree with your statements. Matt <em>should</em> have a chance to work his way into a life....and so far he's been given at least two chances. He got kicked out of one program and is now suspended from another. Not to mention that his first act out of the second program was drug abuse. How many "chances" are enough, too much? </p><p> </p><p>If it was Rob and he'd blown other chance then yes, we probably would say "get with this program or you are on your own. If you choose to be on your own, here's a list of homeless shelters in your area and places where you can get something to eat. You can learn job skills at XXXXX. When you are ready to change your life, let us know. We love you and you know how to contact us. Take care." </p><p> </p><p>A college student has a dorm room paid for because he has worked hard to graduate from high school and gotten accepted to college. I don't see any similarity in this scenario with the reality of Matt- or Rob.</p><p> </p><p>When Rob started making good decisions we were delighted to assist; but not until then.</p><p> </p><p>Steely, this is a place to "take what you need and leave the rest." I cannot advise you on what you should do. Like I said earlier, I can only report what worked for us and what I would do if I faced the scenario again. It was hell to go through, that's for sure, and I don't envy you. </p><p> </p><p>Suz</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Suz, post: 347976, member: 29"] Steely, ExDH and I made decisions we needed to make based on our family and our experiences. You are the only person who can make those decisions for yourself and what you can live with. I am simply reporting my experience and what worked for us. I completely agree with your statements. Matt [I]should[/I] have a chance to work his way into a life....and so far he's been given at least two chances. He got kicked out of one program and is now suspended from another. Not to mention that his first act out of the second program was drug abuse. How many "chances" are enough, too much? If it was Rob and he'd blown other chance then yes, we probably would say "get with this program or you are on your own. If you choose to be on your own, here's a list of homeless shelters in your area and places where you can get something to eat. You can learn job skills at XXXXX. When you are ready to change your life, let us know. We love you and you know how to contact us. Take care." A college student has a dorm room paid for because he has worked hard to graduate from high school and gotten accepted to college. I don't see any similarity in this scenario with the reality of Matt- or Rob. When Rob started making good decisions we were delighted to assist; but not until then. Steely, this is a place to "take what you need and leave the rest." I cannot advise you on what you should do. Like I said earlier, I can only report what worked for us and what I would do if I faced the scenario again. It was hell to go through, that's for sure, and I don't envy you. Suz [/QUOTE]
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