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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 348016" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>Steely</p><p></p><p>I don't have experience with this with a child. But I've often thought about what avenues I might take should such a situation arise. I'm a bit Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) about planning for the worse way in advance just in case. It keeps me from losing my head in a crisis.</p><p></p><p>This is the first time, to my understanding, Matt has actually been out on his own. Given that.......and the fact that the program is willing to work with him outpatient and give him a coach........For me personally, if it were my child, I'd attempt to find a way to fin him housing on a temporary basis until he could land a job and pay his own way. And I'd be careful when doing so to be positive it would be something he could afford comfortably with a job he'd be able to get with his skills, which are limited with his age. You want him to be able to take over the rent and utilities once he has that job.</p><p></p><p>In short...........I'd give him a chance. He deserves 1 chance. Everyone does. But I'd make it clear it would only be once, and what conditions he is to meet for you to do it.</p><p></p><p>And while doing this, I'd be mentally preparing myself for the fact that he will probably not follow through. I'd hunt down that Al anon meeting and become a faithful member. I used to have a book they gave me many years ago. It was an enormous help. Although I had to read it and re-read it until it began to sink in. I was a better person for it. Not the person I went for.......but myself.</p><p></p><p>Having just lost my bff to drugs I so totally get you wanting to do everything to can to help him and make sure he stays away from them. I really do. But in the end, it is his decision....and you've got to prepare yourself for if it's the wrong one.</p><p></p><p>((hugs))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 348016, member: 84"] Steely I don't have experience with this with a child. But I've often thought about what avenues I might take should such a situation arise. I'm a bit Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) about planning for the worse way in advance just in case. It keeps me from losing my head in a crisis. This is the first time, to my understanding, Matt has actually been out on his own. Given that.......and the fact that the program is willing to work with him outpatient and give him a coach........For me personally, if it were my child, I'd attempt to find a way to fin him housing on a temporary basis until he could land a job and pay his own way. And I'd be careful when doing so to be positive it would be something he could afford comfortably with a job he'd be able to get with his skills, which are limited with his age. You want him to be able to take over the rent and utilities once he has that job. In short...........I'd give him a chance. He deserves 1 chance. Everyone does. But I'd make it clear it would only be once, and what conditions he is to meet for you to do it. And while doing this, I'd be mentally preparing myself for the fact that he will probably not follow through. I'd hunt down that Al anon meeting and become a faithful member. I used to have a book they gave me many years ago. It was an enormous help. Although I had to read it and re-read it until it began to sink in. I was a better person for it. Not the person I went for.......but myself. Having just lost my bff to drugs I so totally get you wanting to do everything to can to help him and make sure he stays away from them. I really do. But in the end, it is his decision....and you've got to prepare yourself for if it's the wrong one. ((hugs)) [/QUOTE]
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