Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
No bravado - he did use
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="Steely" data-source="post: 348271" data-attributes="member: 3301"><p>Thanks slsh..........your insight is invaluable...............as I think our kids are cut from the same mold.</p><p></p><p>Just for clarification, the program is the one who is assisting him with the independent living scenario. They are setting up the criteria he has to adhere to in order to gain his independence. Once he is independent, they will still monitor and dictate the rules, consequences, and curriculum.I am not trying to rescue him, enable him, or subsidize him - I am just choosing for him not to be in a structured "program" any longer.</p><p> </p><p>Sometimes I feel as if I am not "tough" enough to even post on PE which makes me disheartened. I feel sad when people post that I just need to put him on the streets. I would hope that you bare with me in this slow process of learning tough love, because I personally think I am doing an amazing job of detaching, given my background of enabling and co-dependence. It is a process. And I personally am proud of the progress I have made. I am not paying for his apt, groceries, etc while he sits by and does drugs or doesn't work. He is not coming to live with me. I am setting boundaries and stating limits. Yet - I do believe that each of our children respond differently - and it is my obligation to pursue every avenue possible - until there are not anymore avenues left that are healthy. I hope you can have grace as I work through that.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Steely, post: 348271, member: 3301"] Thanks slsh..........your insight is invaluable...............as I think our kids are cut from the same mold. Just for clarification, the program is the one who is assisting him with the independent living scenario. They are setting up the criteria he has to adhere to in order to gain his independence. Once he is independent, they will still monitor and dictate the rules, consequences, and curriculum.I am not trying to rescue him, enable him, or subsidize him - I am just choosing for him not to be in a structured "program" any longer. Sometimes I feel as if I am not "tough" enough to even post on PE which makes me disheartened. I feel sad when people post that I just need to put him on the streets. I would hope that you bare with me in this slow process of learning tough love, because I personally think I am doing an amazing job of detaching, given my background of enabling and co-dependence. It is a process. And I personally am proud of the progress I have made. I am not paying for his apt, groceries, etc while he sits by and does drugs or doesn't work. He is not coming to live with me. I am setting boundaries and stating limits. Yet - I do believe that each of our children respond differently - and it is my obligation to pursue every avenue possible - until there are not anymore avenues left that are healthy. I hope you can have grace as I work through that. [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
No bravado - he did use
Top