Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
No changes, which is surprisingly hard all on its own!
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 648390" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>Echo, Birthdays are tough!! My son turned 33 last month. I too think over the years and all the gifts I have given him, nice gifts, that were never cherished by him and are who knows where now. All I do now is send him a Birthday wish via FB as that is the only contact we have. If it wasn't for free WIFI I would probably never hear from him unless he's jail.</p><p>My son lives 1100 miles away from me and I'm grateful in that I don't have to worry about him popping up on my door step (ok, sometimes I do still think about it and wonder what would I do)</p><p>I have forgiven my son for deep hurt he has caused me and I have re-forgiven him many times there after as he continued to lash out at me and the ugliness in the words he spoke to me. Forgiveness is the easy part however I will never forget the feelings of panic and fear I experienced as a result of his actions.</p><p>It took a long time to get to where I am now - detached.</p><p> </p><p>I and my husband have taken our lives back. We get through our days without that feeling of "having to look over your shoulder" because you don't what's coming next.</p><p>I still have "moments" but I do not dwell in them like I used to. I have learned to let go quicker. This forum has helped, it's so good to know others who KNOW this hell we have lived through.</p><p>My son contacted me last week, something about stabbing himself and going to the ER. His message was pretty jumbled as I'm sure he was high on something. There would have been a time that I would have lost sleep dwelling on it but not any more. I love my son and will always be concerned about his health and safety but it's out of my hands. He has chosen his path. I suppose to some extent I have greived his death. I know I've greived for the son I used to have and the adult son I had hoped he would become but because of his lifestyle I have accepted the fact that he could die. I've also accepted the fact that if that were to happen I may never know. It is through this acceptance that I have been able to move on with my life.</p><p> </p><p>I will always have hope that someday my son will decide to turn his life around. Hope is a good thing to hold on to but not so tightly that we strangle ourselves in the process.</p><p> </p><p>As for SAD I had a bout with that a few years ago. Not a fun thing to go through. I'm glad you are using full spectrum lights. Vitamin D can also help. The good thing is spring is a few weeks away. Don't know if you're able to or not but maybe next winter you can go on a tropical vacation.<img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/tongue.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":tongue:" title="tongue :tongue:" data-shortname=":tongue:" /></p><p> </p><p>Wishing you warm sunny days.</p><p> </p><p>((HUGS)) to you......</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 648390, member: 18516"] Echo, Birthdays are tough!! My son turned 33 last month. I too think over the years and all the gifts I have given him, nice gifts, that were never cherished by him and are who knows where now. All I do now is send him a Birthday wish via FB as that is the only contact we have. If it wasn't for free WIFI I would probably never hear from him unless he's jail. My son lives 1100 miles away from me and I'm grateful in that I don't have to worry about him popping up on my door step (ok, sometimes I do still think about it and wonder what would I do) I have forgiven my son for deep hurt he has caused me and I have re-forgiven him many times there after as he continued to lash out at me and the ugliness in the words he spoke to me. Forgiveness is the easy part however I will never forget the feelings of panic and fear I experienced as a result of his actions. It took a long time to get to where I am now - detached. I and my husband have taken our lives back. We get through our days without that feeling of "having to look over your shoulder" because you don't what's coming next. I still have "moments" but I do not dwell in them like I used to. I have learned to let go quicker. This forum has helped, it's so good to know others who KNOW this hell we have lived through. My son contacted me last week, something about stabbing himself and going to the ER. His message was pretty jumbled as I'm sure he was high on something. There would have been a time that I would have lost sleep dwelling on it but not any more. I love my son and will always be concerned about his health and safety but it's out of my hands. He has chosen his path. I suppose to some extent I have greived his death. I know I've greived for the son I used to have and the adult son I had hoped he would become but because of his lifestyle I have accepted the fact that he could die. I've also accepted the fact that if that were to happen I may never know. It is through this acceptance that I have been able to move on with my life. I will always have hope that someday my son will decide to turn his life around. Hope is a good thing to hold on to but not so tightly that we strangle ourselves in the process. As for SAD I had a bout with that a few years ago. Not a fun thing to go through. I'm glad you are using full spectrum lights. Vitamin D can also help. The good thing is spring is a few weeks away. Don't know if you're able to or not but maybe next winter you can go on a tropical vacation.:tongue: Wishing you warm sunny days. ((HUGS)) to you...... [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
No changes, which is surprisingly hard all on its own!
Top