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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 648486" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>Horribly enough, for me, it means "not worse."</p><p></p><p>It means, "I can accept this level of loss and horror." I got that covered. I seem to be upright again, speaking reasonably good English. Nails are done, beds made.</p><p></p><p>Combed my hair.</p><p></p><p>Life is manageable and then, maybe, trustworthy. </p><p></p><p>Little sunshine, this morning.</p><p></p><p>Maybe, dinner with friends.</p><p></p><p>But then, something worse happens.</p><p></p><p>Whatever strength or illusion I was buying into or borrowing comes due and I have to face what <em>is,</em> naked and defenseless in some roaring, echoey reality I cannot face, at all.</p><p></p><p>What is happening to my children is real.</p><p></p><p>Echo, from my own process, I can tell you that you will make it through.</p><p></p><p>There is nothing easy about any of it. </p><p></p><p>You are brave enough and strong enough and you will do this <em>as well as it can be done.</em> </p><p></p><p><em>As well as it can be done.</em></p><p></p><p>In fact, you are doing very well. To be honest with ourselves about what is happening to our kids takes more than we have, more than we know or can learn or stand up to.</p><p></p><p>Ours is an ugly story.</p><p></p><p>That helped me.</p><p></p><p>Ours is an ugly, ugly story. Though it was really sad to invite that one in, it strengthened me, made the senses of shame and guilt and anger correct, somehow.</p><p></p><p>You are moving, Echo. There have been times when that was all I knew: I was moving. I did not know what the resolution would look or feel like, but I was so grateful just to be moving.</p><p></p><p>You will make it through this time. That is where the strength will come from to make it through the next time.</p><p></p><p>Brene Brown writes that we human beings are wired for challenge. This is true. Challenge on every level, from the moment of conception.</p><p></p><p>You can do this.</p><p></p><p>It's a balancing act.</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 648486, member: 17461"] Horribly enough, for me, it means "not worse." It means, "I can accept this level of loss and horror." I got that covered. I seem to be upright again, speaking reasonably good English. Nails are done, beds made. Combed my hair. Life is manageable and then, maybe, trustworthy. Little sunshine, this morning. Maybe, dinner with friends. But then, something worse happens. Whatever strength or illusion I was buying into or borrowing comes due and I have to face what [I]is,[/I] naked and defenseless in some roaring, echoey reality I cannot face, at all. What is happening to my children is real. Echo, from my own process, I can tell you that you will make it through. There is nothing easy about any of it. You are brave enough and strong enough and you will do this [I]as well as it can be done.[/I] [I]As well as it can be done.[/I] In fact, you are doing very well. To be honest with ourselves about what is happening to our kids takes more than we have, more than we know or can learn or stand up to. Ours is an ugly story. That helped me. Ours is an ugly, ugly story. Though it was really sad to invite that one in, it strengthened me, made the senses of shame and guilt and anger correct, somehow. You are moving, Echo. There have been times when that was all I knew: I was moving. I did not know what the resolution would look or feel like, but I was so grateful just to be moving. You will make it through this time. That is where the strength will come from to make it through the next time. Brene Brown writes that we human beings are wired for challenge. This is true. Challenge on every level, from the moment of conception. You can do this. It's a balancing act. Cedar [/QUOTE]
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