Sorry to not be posting much. Can't type easily but am reading all posts. Bro just walked in when we didn't answer the door today. He had his daughter with him and came to pound on my door and yell through it to answer the door because he had a right to wish me a happy birthday and I was acting like a child. He was told to leave the property or I was calling the police. He insisted on having his daughter say happy birthday. I didn't answer. I HATE that she is in the middle. Per the police, who I called but did not have come out because he was driving away when they answered, I have to send a letter telling him not to contact us or be on our property. If he violates it even to sending mail, then I can get a RO against him. I want to not have to do that because it will greatly upset my father, moreso than my mother. Thanks to all of you who helped me be strong enough to do this. I appreciate it, and so do my kids. THey were locked in thank you's room because I figured if bro came in he would come to my door. I hate the conflama, and the fact that he is an ashol but I am taking this next step to getting him out of my life permanently. YIPPEE!