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<blockquote data-quote="newstart" data-source="post: 760455" data-attributes="member: 22416"><p>Theotherwhistler, I read your post and I hear you. I have a daughter age 39 that gives me a bunch of grief on a regular basis. I know you appreciate your daughter driving you places but I am sure she thinks you owe her so much because she does this for you. I actually use what Nomad wrote about taking a break and telling her you will gladly talk to her after a while and then disconnect. This works for me the best. Even though my daughter is abusive and lies horribly, somewhere in there I know she loves and needs me like I know your daughter does you. My daughter seems to straighten out better when I refuse to let her abuse me, and God knows she tries. I have gone absolutely NO contact with her for 3 months. Doing that knocked off her belligerence towards me. She still tries to use me and lies but I see a difference because she knows I have the strength to not tolerate her BS. I am a bereaved mother, losing my only son to death, which made me a huge push over. I could not stand the disharmony with my daughter but after I gained my voice back and figured out that I was not doing her a favor by letting her abuse me I got stronger. It feels good and right to disconnect and walk away. I had to do this as recent as last August. I am getting older I do not want to go into this stage in my life in constant battle with my daughter. I pray you find relief, something that feels good and right to you. Copa has given great advice and suggestions.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="newstart, post: 760455, member: 22416"] Theotherwhistler, I read your post and I hear you. I have a daughter age 39 that gives me a bunch of grief on a regular basis. I know you appreciate your daughter driving you places but I am sure she thinks you owe her so much because she does this for you. I actually use what Nomad wrote about taking a break and telling her you will gladly talk to her after a while and then disconnect. This works for me the best. Even though my daughter is abusive and lies horribly, somewhere in there I know she loves and needs me like I know your daughter does you. My daughter seems to straighten out better when I refuse to let her abuse me, and God knows she tries. I have gone absolutely NO contact with her for 3 months. Doing that knocked off her belligerence towards me. She still tries to use me and lies but I see a difference because she knows I have the strength to not tolerate her BS. I am a bereaved mother, losing my only son to death, which made me a huge push over. I could not stand the disharmony with my daughter but after I gained my voice back and figured out that I was not doing her a favor by letting her abuse me I got stronger. It feels good and right to disconnect and walk away. I had to do this as recent as last August. I am getting older I do not want to go into this stage in my life in constant battle with my daughter. I pray you find relief, something that feels good and right to you. Copa has given great advice and suggestions. [/QUOTE]
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