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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 681735" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>He sounds very much like he could be on the spectrum. Limited interests, and many times they are videogames and/or movies, are big symptoms as is preferring to be alone rather than with peers. It is all just part of the spectrum, if he is on it. Sometimes spectrum kids have a useful obsession, such as electronics and taking apart things and putting them back together again, and more often it is videogames and television since they lack imagination and need outside stimuli to amuse themselves. My son watches the same movies over and over again. He has memorized them. He seems to like this sameness. I do too. I am mildly on the spectrum and have a severe non verbal learning disability, which is spectrum behavior as well. New diagnosis. for me. They didn't have them when I was young.</p><p></p><p>Oh, yes, my son!</p><p></p><p>My son who is on the spectrum is a videogame/movie freak (so stereotyical) yet he has a job and is doing well, albeit with minimal supports from outside. I accept his disorder because he can't help it and he is very happy and not at all rebellious. Everyone loves him. He is who he is.</p><p></p><p>I have no idea if this is Pat's problem. If it is, don't expect him to dive into a lot of interests, have a lot of friends (he will prefer to be alone probably) or, if he feels stress, substance abuse is common. And spectrum kids experience far more stress from far more issues than neuro-typical young adults and children. I know. I am close to being on the spectrum myself and have my own obsessions and it's a miracle I haven't abused drugs. Along with this, comes very common co-morbids such as depression, rebellion to authority (they don't get how social rules) and phobias, generalized anxiety disorder, and panic disorder.</p><p></p><p>If he is on the spectrum, and again I don't know if he is, he would have needed early intervention to be able to be at his best, although some Aspies learn to do it better on their own (some can't). He can still get interventions. Something about him screams to me that he is not neurotypical and is not going to adapt to your standards as to what is important through no fault of his own. Does he also have alcohol affects? That makes it even worse. My son Sonic was tested positive for crack as an infant. Obviously, heh, if his birthmother didn't say "no" to crack, she did not say "no, sorry, can't have a drink. I'm pregnant!" It is not my son's fault that his birthmother abused drugs and alcohol and made him ingest these things while he was trying to safely grow in her womb. If this applies to Pat, it is not his fault either. And,yes, it makes them different and we need to accept them as they were born. We didn't cause it, but we are raising them and want them to feel good about who they are.</p><p></p><p>I deeply apologize if I'm off base here. You know I think you are a great mother. Many people are great parents to neurotypicals, but are puzzled and put off by those children we either adopt or become steps to when they are not like we are. Sometimes the changed thinking has to come from us. Again, apologize profusely if I am out of line. These are just my thoughts and you may disregard them all, if they don't fit. "If it doesn't fit, you must acquit!" (Johnny Cochran) <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 681735, member: 1550"] He sounds very much like he could be on the spectrum. Limited interests, and many times they are videogames and/or movies, are big symptoms as is preferring to be alone rather than with peers. It is all just part of the spectrum, if he is on it. Sometimes spectrum kids have a useful obsession, such as electronics and taking apart things and putting them back together again, and more often it is videogames and television since they lack imagination and need outside stimuli to amuse themselves. My son watches the same movies over and over again. He has memorized them. He seems to like this sameness. I do too. I am mildly on the spectrum and have a severe non verbal learning disability, which is spectrum behavior as well. New diagnosis. for me. They didn't have them when I was young. Oh, yes, my son! My son who is on the spectrum is a videogame/movie freak (so stereotyical) yet he has a job and is doing well, albeit with minimal supports from outside. I accept his disorder because he can't help it and he is very happy and not at all rebellious. Everyone loves him. He is who he is. I have no idea if this is Pat's problem. If it is, don't expect him to dive into a lot of interests, have a lot of friends (he will prefer to be alone probably) or, if he feels stress, substance abuse is common. And spectrum kids experience far more stress from far more issues than neuro-typical young adults and children. I know. I am close to being on the spectrum myself and have my own obsessions and it's a miracle I haven't abused drugs. Along with this, comes very common co-morbids such as depression, rebellion to authority (they don't get how social rules) and phobias, generalized anxiety disorder, and panic disorder. If he is on the spectrum, and again I don't know if he is, he would have needed early intervention to be able to be at his best, although some Aspies learn to do it better on their own (some can't). He can still get interventions. Something about him screams to me that he is not neurotypical and is not going to adapt to your standards as to what is important through no fault of his own. Does he also have alcohol affects? That makes it even worse. My son Sonic was tested positive for crack as an infant. Obviously, heh, if his birthmother didn't say "no" to crack, she did not say "no, sorry, can't have a drink. I'm pregnant!" It is not my son's fault that his birthmother abused drugs and alcohol and made him ingest these things while he was trying to safely grow in her womb. If this applies to Pat, it is not his fault either. And,yes, it makes them different and we need to accept them as they were born. We didn't cause it, but we are raising them and want them to feel good about who they are. I deeply apologize if I'm off base here. You know I think you are a great mother. Many people are great parents to neurotypicals, but are puzzled and put off by those children we either adopt or become steps to when they are not like we are. Sometimes the changed thinking has to come from us. Again, apologize profusely if I am out of line. These are just my thoughts and you may disregard them all, if they don't fit. "If it doesn't fit, you must acquit!" (Johnny Cochran) ;) [/QUOTE]
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