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<blockquote data-quote="TeDo" data-source="post: 682298" data-attributes="member: 15799"><p>AnnieO, you know I have one of those kids. He's just like Pat. Physically, DC1 hit puberty a couple years ago but psychologically, he's there now. A lot of what you've described is 95% of how I would describe DC1. His hygiene has gone downhill, he does NOTHING around the house anymore, he won't even do his laundry, etc. Because he graduates this year and knows he will be on his own soon, I have decided not to pick those battles anymore. He will have to live with the natural consequences with others besides me. I'm tired of being the bad guy. If DC1 wants "special food", he has to find a way to buy it himself because I won't do it for him anymore. He wants clean clothes, he has to wash them because I won't do it for him anymore. I even went out and bought him his own towels, etc because he's going to need them when he leaves home anyway, and told him those were his and ours were ours and he's not allowed to use ours anymore. Just to make it fair, I bought DC2 his own as well. It's to the point that we are 3 "adults" living in the same house but everyone is responsible for their own "adult responsibilities". If they don't, oh well. I have to let go. They need to learn to be on their own now, no matter how much I hate living this way.</p><p></p><p>Have you talked to Belle about your concerns? Would she be willing to have a brother-sister talk? Could he be feeling "left out" or jealous or whatever because of all the attention Rose is getting now that she's older? I also like a LOT of what IC has said. I really, really don't think Pat is doing this intentionally. He just truly doesn't get it and he doesn't feel like he can talk about it or doesn't have the words to talk about it or ...... There are just SO many alternative reasons. (((HUGS))) my friend!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TeDo, post: 682298, member: 15799"] AnnieO, you know I have one of those kids. He's just like Pat. Physically, DC1 hit puberty a couple years ago but psychologically, he's there now. A lot of what you've described is 95% of how I would describe DC1. His hygiene has gone downhill, he does NOTHING around the house anymore, he won't even do his laundry, etc. Because he graduates this year and knows he will be on his own soon, I have decided not to pick those battles anymore. He will have to live with the natural consequences with others besides me. I'm tired of being the bad guy. If DC1 wants "special food", he has to find a way to buy it himself because I won't do it for him anymore. He wants clean clothes, he has to wash them because I won't do it for him anymore. I even went out and bought him his own towels, etc because he's going to need them when he leaves home anyway, and told him those were his and ours were ours and he's not allowed to use ours anymore. Just to make it fair, I bought DC2 his own as well. It's to the point that we are 3 "adults" living in the same house but everyone is responsible for their own "adult responsibilities". If they don't, oh well. I have to let go. They need to learn to be on their own now, no matter how much I hate living this way. Have you talked to Belle about your concerns? Would she be willing to have a brother-sister talk? Could he be feeling "left out" or jealous or whatever because of all the attention Rose is getting now that she's older? I also like a LOT of what IC has said. I really, really don't think Pat is doing this intentionally. He just truly doesn't get it and he doesn't feel like he can talk about it or doesn't have the words to talk about it or ...... There are just SO many alternative reasons. (((HUGS))) my friend! [/QUOTE]
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