No matter how hard we try, no matter what progress she makes, she still reverts back to behaviors so entrenched in her genetic makeup that she just can't overcome them, at least not at this point in her life.
This year has been difficult, she has just about ruined her senior year with her nonsense both for herself and her family. Most of her friends are ignoring her and moving on, looking forward to college, etc. She has been intimate with several different guys, none of which are good influences on her and yes we have her on birth control. She can't hold a job because she refuses to dress appropriately (wearing jeans with massive tears in them) and doesn't think she should have to work hard.
Last Thursday she made a new friend from her science class. I was suspect from the beginning when she said she was so excited she had a new bff. Friday she drove the girl home to her apartment and they got drunk. A lot of cell phones calls and lying went on in
between. My husband and I finally got the address and drove there, I drove her car home and husband drove her home. The mother was out with her boyfriend while her daughter and mine were drinking her alcohol.
husband told her the next day that she had a drinking problem and while it was not entirely her fault because she was born with those genes, she was going to have to realize that as an adult she could not drink because she cannot control it. She of course thinks we are crazy. I told her college was out of the question and she had to find a fulltime job so that in June she could move out on her own.
I'm done with her ruining her life and ours at the same time. I love her with all my heart and I will be sick with worry about her I suspect for the rest of my life, but I just can't allow the drama to continue.
Nancy
This year has been difficult, she has just about ruined her senior year with her nonsense both for herself and her family. Most of her friends are ignoring her and moving on, looking forward to college, etc. She has been intimate with several different guys, none of which are good influences on her and yes we have her on birth control. She can't hold a job because she refuses to dress appropriately (wearing jeans with massive tears in them) and doesn't think she should have to work hard.
Last Thursday she made a new friend from her science class. I was suspect from the beginning when she said she was so excited she had a new bff. Friday she drove the girl home to her apartment and they got drunk. A lot of cell phones calls and lying went on in
between. My husband and I finally got the address and drove there, I drove her car home and husband drove her home. The mother was out with her boyfriend while her daughter and mine were drinking her alcohol.
husband told her the next day that she had a drinking problem and while it was not entirely her fault because she was born with those genes, she was going to have to realize that as an adult she could not drink because she cannot control it. She of course thinks we are crazy. I told her college was out of the question and she had to find a fulltime job so that in June she could move out on her own.
I'm done with her ruining her life and ours at the same time. I love her with all my heart and I will be sick with worry about her I suspect for the rest of my life, but I just can't allow the drama to continue.
Nancy