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<blockquote data-quote="Nancy" data-source="post: 26264" data-attributes="member: 59"><p>It is not you Pamela. I undrestand the feeling that you worked so hard to get him, I truly do. But your husband has to also understand that if he isn't make to be responsible for his behavior when he becomes an adult he will get into more serious trouble and you won't be able to help him.</p><p></p><p>I think for us my husband didn't have to take as much abuse from her so it was easier for him to not force the issue. And also he works in the criminal justice system as a defense attorney so for him to have to call 911 and file charges on his own child was just about the hardest thing for him to do. He hated every minute if it and didn't trust the police to help at all. But for whatever reason he saw that things were escalating and we couldn't handle it anymore. </p><p></p><p>I don't know how muxch therapy you have been through before but if that option is still open I would try to find a therapist that is very assertive and has experience with adoption issues and loss. We used many who were just nice people to talk to and that did nothing. The best therapists we used were those that made difficult child look at how her behavior contributed to the problem. If you wait much longer he will be at the age where he refuses to go to therapy.</p><p></p><p>Also while I truly believe there are no medications that will fix kids like ours, there are medications that can help giev you the window that you need to start turning things around. Perhaps it's time to try a different medication.</p><p></p><p>How is his behavior in school and elsewhere? Is he starting to get into trouble there yet?</p><p></p><p>Nancy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nancy, post: 26264, member: 59"] It is not you Pamela. I undrestand the feeling that you worked so hard to get him, I truly do. But your husband has to also understand that if he isn't make to be responsible for his behavior when he becomes an adult he will get into more serious trouble and you won't be able to help him. I think for us my husband didn't have to take as much abuse from her so it was easier for him to not force the issue. And also he works in the criminal justice system as a defense attorney so for him to have to call 911 and file charges on his own child was just about the hardest thing for him to do. He hated every minute if it and didn't trust the police to help at all. But for whatever reason he saw that things were escalating and we couldn't handle it anymore. I don't know how muxch therapy you have been through before but if that option is still open I would try to find a therapist that is very assertive and has experience with adoption issues and loss. We used many who were just nice people to talk to and that did nothing. The best therapists we used were those that made difficult child look at how her behavior contributed to the problem. If you wait much longer he will be at the age where he refuses to go to therapy. Also while I truly believe there are no medications that will fix kids like ours, there are medications that can help giev you the window that you need to start turning things around. Perhaps it's time to try a different medication. How is his behavior in school and elsewhere? Is he starting to get into trouble there yet? Nancy [/QUOTE]
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