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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 379471" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>I misunderstood about the PO involvement before- I thought that was a PO out of state but now it sounds like she is on probation there, where you live now. I'm going to assume that this PO is someone you can actually talk to and get some feedback and help from- unlike the nightmare situation we had when my son was on probation. If that's the case, you should be letting the PO know what sort of situation you are dealing with at home. The PO can get services and provide a path in case more is needed in the future. This is preferable to calling police.</p><p></p><p>In my son't case, his PO was only concentrating on blaming me and never did a single thing to try to get my son more services so after failed attempts to go around her and my son's behavior escalating further, I felt I had no choice but to call police. As a therapist told me around that time, we mothers sometimes become too tolerant of the difficult child's behaviors because they gradually worsen and we somewhat become conditioned to them. But it isn't healthy and we have to step back and do something when we know it has already gone farther than it ever should.</p><p></p><p>Try discussing this with the PO, over the phone when your daughter isn't around. The other thing this does- the PO can usually get a message to the judge in court that the parent might not have a chance to and the PO's word goes farther than the parent's. I deally though, the PO should be making changes to address it before automatically taking it back before a judge.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 379471, member: 3699"] I misunderstood about the PO involvement before- I thought that was a PO out of state but now it sounds like she is on probation there, where you live now. I'm going to assume that this PO is someone you can actually talk to and get some feedback and help from- unlike the nightmare situation we had when my son was on probation. If that's the case, you should be letting the PO know what sort of situation you are dealing with at home. The PO can get services and provide a path in case more is needed in the future. This is preferable to calling police. In my son't case, his PO was only concentrating on blaming me and never did a single thing to try to get my son more services so after failed attempts to go around her and my son's behavior escalating further, I felt I had no choice but to call police. As a therapist told me around that time, we mothers sometimes become too tolerant of the difficult child's behaviors because they gradually worsen and we somewhat become conditioned to them. But it isn't healthy and we have to step back and do something when we know it has already gone farther than it ever should. Try discussing this with the PO, over the phone when your daughter isn't around. The other thing this does- the PO can usually get a message to the judge in court that the parent might not have a chance to and the PO's word goes farther than the parent's. I deally though, the PO should be making changes to address it before automatically taking it back before a judge. [/QUOTE]
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