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<blockquote data-quote="LittleDudesMom" data-source="post: 641437" data-attributes="member: 805"><p>Srosenus,</p><p></p><p>First, let me welcome you to the site. Raising our difficult and challenging children is an individual as DNA. What works for one, may not work for another. That applies to medications, therapy, behavior mod, etc. Getting a diagnosis is, as you know, just the first step. My son was very much like yours at 8. Raging at school, difficult and independent. It took tons of work, never letting my guard down, consistency, consistency, consistency, talk therapy, medication, positive peer modeling, tons of work with the school so that everyone who came in contact with my son knew about his Behavior Intervention Plan and IEP. There were sleepless nights, loss of interpersonal relationships for me, stress....</p><p></p><p>But, there is/was a light. Things improved slowly. By middle school some of his learning disabilities had improved and he was getting to the point where his awareness of his issues allowed him to make better choices. He also was able to recognize the building frustration/anger/aggression and learned through therapy ways to control the physical reactions. He was also granted a pass to leave the classroom and go to a "safe place" (the nurse or library) to cool off if his frustration was high (without academic consequences). By his junior hear of high school he was off his adhd medications (working hard to overcome his focus without medications) and hadn't had a behavior issue since freshman year.</p><p></p><p>He graduated from high school this past June, is holding down a job, living at home and paying rent, and participating in the household chores and responsibilities he is given. Oh, he's still a difficult child with quickness to frustrate, social issues and immaturity about 2 years behind his peers - but he is also a different person than he was in those early years. A willingness to overcome, a clear understanding of his issues, and a lot of hard work on his part made a difference.</p><p></p><p>You are going to take two steps forward and a step back (sometimes seeming like 3 steps back), but little by little you will find what helps. It won't be a fix, because there isn't one. But there are things that eventually break through the fog and allow these kids to move forward.</p><p></p><p>Don't get discouraged.</p><p></p><p>Sharon</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="LittleDudesMom, post: 641437, member: 805"] Srosenus, First, let me welcome you to the site. Raising our difficult and challenging children is an individual as DNA. What works for one, may not work for another. That applies to medications, therapy, behavior mod, etc. Getting a diagnosis is, as you know, just the first step. My son was very much like yours at 8. Raging at school, difficult and independent. It took tons of work, never letting my guard down, consistency, consistency, consistency, talk therapy, medication, positive peer modeling, tons of work with the school so that everyone who came in contact with my son knew about his Behavior Intervention Plan and IEP. There were sleepless nights, loss of interpersonal relationships for me, stress.... But, there is/was a light. Things improved slowly. By middle school some of his learning disabilities had improved and he was getting to the point where his awareness of his issues allowed him to make better choices. He also was able to recognize the building frustration/anger/aggression and learned through therapy ways to control the physical reactions. He was also granted a pass to leave the classroom and go to a "safe place" (the nurse or library) to cool off if his frustration was high (without academic consequences). By his junior hear of high school he was off his adhd medications (working hard to overcome his focus without medications) and hadn't had a behavior issue since freshman year. He graduated from high school this past June, is holding down a job, living at home and paying rent, and participating in the household chores and responsibilities he is given. Oh, he's still a difficult child with quickness to frustrate, social issues and immaturity about 2 years behind his peers - but he is also a different person than he was in those early years. A willingness to overcome, a clear understanding of his issues, and a lot of hard work on his part made a difference. You are going to take two steps forward and a step back (sometimes seeming like 3 steps back), but little by little you will find what helps. It won't be a fix, because there isn't one. But there are things that eventually break through the fog and allow these kids to move forward. Don't get discouraged. Sharon [/QUOTE]
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