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<blockquote data-quote="TerryJ2" data-source="post: 641479" data-attributes="member: 3419"><p>Welcome, Srosenus.</p><p></p><p>I hear you! Your son sounds like mine.</p><p>I would definitely recommend therapy. Weekly, if possible. I hope you have good insurance. But it's worth it, just for your sanity. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p>Our therapist is great. And he can be unconventional. One thing I noticed in your note is that you said that something works and you try it for two weeks and then ... Well, you've got to give it waaaaay more than two weeks. Some things work immediately, and some things take a lot longer.</p><p>For example, one thing our therapist recommended (my apologies to those on the board who had read this before--it's a repeat) is to stop everything and give your full attention to the behavior and make it more miserable for your son to deal with you than to repeat the behavior.</p><p>You have to have stamina--physical and emotional stamina. But once you see how things work out, it will give you more energy.</p><p>For example, my son used to sit in the back seat and pull my hair and kick the seat. Scary stuff when you're in the middle of an intersection. He especially loved to kick the seat.</p><p>So the therapist told me to pull over and get out, and instruct my son to kick the front seat for 1/2 hr straight.</p><p>The first time, my difficult child said, "Okay!" and thought it was great fun. For five min. I said, "You're not finished yet. You've still got 25 min."</p><p>He eventually ran out of steam, of course.</p><p>He calmed down, and then I drove a block and he started it again. I pulled over again. One day, I pulled over 6 times!</p><p>It really messes with your schedule, but the therapist pointed out that you're schedule is shot anyway, so why not use the time teaching your difficult child?</p><p><img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p>Through it all, sometimes I had to repeat to myself, "Just keep breathing."</p><p>After we saw Finding Nemo, I'd sing in my head, "Just keep swimming." (Warning: if you are punishing or disciplining your son and he sees you smiling, he will hit the roof. Which is understandable. You have to learn to have a poker face.)</p><p></p><p>In regard to therapists, try them all out . Find one who has experience with-autism, bipolar, behavior issues and most importantly, who has a sense of humor!!!!!!!</p><p></p><p>I can't tell you how many times I've gone to bed crying. In the middle of the day. I think the most recent one was 3 wks ago. My son can talk and yell until the cows come home. In fact, I think the cows died from old age.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TerryJ2, post: 641479, member: 3419"] Welcome, Srosenus. I hear you! Your son sounds like mine. I would definitely recommend therapy. Weekly, if possible. I hope you have good insurance. But it's worth it, just for your sanity. :) Our therapist is great. And he can be unconventional. One thing I noticed in your note is that you said that something works and you try it for two weeks and then ... Well, you've got to give it waaaaay more than two weeks. Some things work immediately, and some things take a lot longer. For example, one thing our therapist recommended (my apologies to those on the board who had read this before--it's a repeat) is to stop everything and give your full attention to the behavior and make it more miserable for your son to deal with you than to repeat the behavior. You have to have stamina--physical and emotional stamina. But once you see how things work out, it will give you more energy. For example, my son used to sit in the back seat and pull my hair and kick the seat. Scary stuff when you're in the middle of an intersection. He especially loved to kick the seat. So the therapist told me to pull over and get out, and instruct my son to kick the front seat for 1/2 hr straight. The first time, my difficult child said, "Okay!" and thought it was great fun. For five min. I said, "You're not finished yet. You've still got 25 min." He eventually ran out of steam, of course. He calmed down, and then I drove a block and he started it again. I pulled over again. One day, I pulled over 6 times! It really messes with your schedule, but the therapist pointed out that you're schedule is shot anyway, so why not use the time teaching your difficult child? :) :) :) Through it all, sometimes I had to repeat to myself, "Just keep breathing." After we saw Finding Nemo, I'd sing in my head, "Just keep swimming." (Warning: if you are punishing or disciplining your son and he sees you smiling, he will hit the roof. Which is understandable. You have to learn to have a poker face.) In regard to therapists, try them all out . Find one who has experience with-autism, bipolar, behavior issues and most importantly, who has a sense of humor!!!!!!! I can't tell you how many times I've gone to bed crying. In the middle of the day. I think the most recent one was 3 wks ago. My son can talk and yell until the cows come home. In fact, I think the cows died from old age. [/QUOTE]
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