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<blockquote data-quote="witzend" data-source="post: 602982" data-attributes="member: 99"><p>Where do you live? if you live outside the USA you may have much different choices. When I was a little younger than your difficult child, I stopped eating much and got down to 87 pounds during a depression. It wasn't about dying it was about control. When I heard about Karen Carpenter I realized that I could really die and started eating. I had always eaten enough to keep alive but not enough to put weight on. I knew that if I just dropped dead from a heart attack I was not going to be in control of my death so there was no reason to not eat, because not eating is about control. Your daughter is using it to control you.</p><p></p><p>While I agree that your daughter is mentally ill, I never felt any doubt about that. It's her illness, and only she can seek the cure. Right now she is making you a part of her sickness. She's also 25 years old and I assume that she has been aware of her illness for decades by now. You can only help by no longer aiding her in her sickness by propping her up as she gets more and more manipulative. Do see someone to help you get back your life for you, and it will be a great help to her. Figure out a plan that you can stick to before you make any decisions, but if she's threatening to not eat, I'd guard the fridge and cupboards and call her on her manipulation when she goes for a snack. If all she eats are her words, it's a good start towards a meal.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="witzend, post: 602982, member: 99"] Where do you live? if you live outside the USA you may have much different choices. When I was a little younger than your difficult child, I stopped eating much and got down to 87 pounds during a depression. It wasn't about dying it was about control. When I heard about Karen Carpenter I realized that I could really die and started eating. I had always eaten enough to keep alive but not enough to put weight on. I knew that if I just dropped dead from a heart attack I was not going to be in control of my death so there was no reason to not eat, because not eating is about control. Your daughter is using it to control you. While I agree that your daughter is mentally ill, I never felt any doubt about that. It's her illness, and only she can seek the cure. Right now she is making you a part of her sickness. She's also 25 years old and I assume that she has been aware of her illness for decades by now. You can only help by no longer aiding her in her sickness by propping her up as she gets more and more manipulative. Do see someone to help you get back your life for you, and it will be a great help to her. Figure out a plan that you can stick to before you make any decisions, but if she's threatening to not eat, I'd guard the fridge and cupboards and call her on her manipulation when she goes for a snack. If all she eats are her words, it's a good start towards a meal. [/QUOTE]
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