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<blockquote data-quote="toughlovin" data-source="post: 637399" data-attributes="member: 15801"><p>Oh PG I am there with you too! I think it is really hard to realize that even without the drugs they are still difficult children!! It is wonderful your daughter got clean when she had Connor and has stayed clean, that is an accomplishment.... but unfortunately she has not dealt with her underlying issues that make her a difficult child. I do believe you have to take care of yourself and do whatever you have to do to take care of Connor.</p><p></p><p>Luckily I have not yet been in the situation with a grandbaby.... but I can easily imagine being in that situation and although I definitely do not want to raise another child and would probably be upset if I had too, I can see that in that situation I probably would.</p><p></p><p>It sounds like she knows full well she doesnt want to have full time responsibility for Connor and so if she had to leave, my guess is she would leave Connor with you... and it may come to that. Tough choices for sure.</p><p></p><p>My favorite saying these days is, it is what it is, it will be what it will be. I have come to some sort of peace with the fact that my difficult child is going to make his own way, good or bad. To be honest I will be surprised if he really gets his act together and builds a life but I am hoping he proves me wrong. Time will tell... and he may end up in jail. There is nothing I can do... and I dont think there is anything you can do with your difficult child except set those boundaries and be there for Connor. But I dont think that means she has to continue living with you and doing nothing.</p><p></p><p>Hugs,</p><p></p><p>TL</p><p></p><p></p><p>Sent using ConductDisorders mobile app</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="toughlovin, post: 637399, member: 15801"] Oh PG I am there with you too! I think it is really hard to realize that even without the drugs they are still difficult children!! It is wonderful your daughter got clean when she had Connor and has stayed clean, that is an accomplishment.... but unfortunately she has not dealt with her underlying issues that make her a difficult child. I do believe you have to take care of yourself and do whatever you have to do to take care of Connor. Luckily I have not yet been in the situation with a grandbaby.... but I can easily imagine being in that situation and although I definitely do not want to raise another child and would probably be upset if I had too, I can see that in that situation I probably would. It sounds like she knows full well she doesnt want to have full time responsibility for Connor and so if she had to leave, my guess is she would leave Connor with you... and it may come to that. Tough choices for sure. My favorite saying these days is, it is what it is, it will be what it will be. I have come to some sort of peace with the fact that my difficult child is going to make his own way, good or bad. To be honest I will be surprised if he really gets his act together and builds a life but I am hoping he proves me wrong. Time will tell... and he may end up in jail. There is nothing I can do... and I dont think there is anything you can do with your difficult child except set those boundaries and be there for Connor. But I dont think that means she has to continue living with you and doing nothing. Hugs, TL Sent using ConductDisorders mobile app [/QUOTE]
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