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difficult child comes home from school this afternoon and seemed to be in a decent/good mood. He had work to make up from the three days of school that he missed, but all of his teachers gave him most of the week to get it done, so it's not like he has to get everything done tonight. He actually started his homework when he got home, which is rare for him, so that he could get finished with the homework that was assigned for tonight and due tomorrow and work on the other things later. Sounded good to me and he went about getting it done.
Then easy child came home. It seems like from the minute that child walked in the door difficult child was on a tear. Intentionally making noise and being bothersome while I was trying to get easy child started on his homework. Playing in the basement, but being really loud so that he could bother easy child with all of the noise he was making. Verbally going at easy child so that easy child would respond and difficult child would start screaming at him, "How dare you speak to me like that??!! You don't talk to me like that!!" Then the cursing began. Then he punched easy child and started screaming at me "I don't understand why your so nice to that stupid kid!! If he wasn't alive my life would be so much better!! I hope he dies in a black hole somewhere." After the punch I sent him to his room and told him that it was not okay to hit anyone, I don't care what they did first. He could stay there until he cooled off and was ready to say he was sorry.
He cools off pretty quickly and the kids apologize to each other, then he apologizes to me. I told him that I wasn't going to accept his apology. He speaks to everyone here in this house like we were less than the dirt under his shoes and he just expects me think that, "I'm sorry" makes it better? I told him that he needs to understand that he will reap what he sows. If he wants nice, he has to be nice to others. His answer to that was that no one here is nice to him. I had to just walk away because I thought my head was going to explode.
He went upstairs to play with easy child, but is not happy that I would not accept his apology. "You should acceopt it, " he tells me. "You're the reason that is curse in the first place." To me, that's not really an apology. No remorse. No acceptance of responsibility for his own actions.
Then easy child came home. It seems like from the minute that child walked in the door difficult child was on a tear. Intentionally making noise and being bothersome while I was trying to get easy child started on his homework. Playing in the basement, but being really loud so that he could bother easy child with all of the noise he was making. Verbally going at easy child so that easy child would respond and difficult child would start screaming at him, "How dare you speak to me like that??!! You don't talk to me like that!!" Then the cursing began. Then he punched easy child and started screaming at me "I don't understand why your so nice to that stupid kid!! If he wasn't alive my life would be so much better!! I hope he dies in a black hole somewhere." After the punch I sent him to his room and told him that it was not okay to hit anyone, I don't care what they did first. He could stay there until he cooled off and was ready to say he was sorry.
He cools off pretty quickly and the kids apologize to each other, then he apologizes to me. I told him that I wasn't going to accept his apology. He speaks to everyone here in this house like we were less than the dirt under his shoes and he just expects me think that, "I'm sorry" makes it better? I told him that he needs to understand that he will reap what he sows. If he wants nice, he has to be nice to others. His answer to that was that no one here is nice to him. I had to just walk away because I thought my head was going to explode.
He went upstairs to play with easy child, but is not happy that I would not accept his apology. "You should acceopt it, " he tells me. "You're the reason that is curse in the first place." To me, that's not really an apology. No remorse. No acceptance of responsibility for his own actions.