husband is just NEVER going to get it! Never!! We had concrete Thanksgiving plans, but it was suggested that we change them because people who were supposed to be here for dinner have now decided to go someplace else. I told husband that I did not want to change plans, and I thought the matter was settled. Apparently not. husband says to the kids while we're eating diner, "Did you tell the kids that our Thanksgiving plans have changed?" difficult child asks what changed and I simply tell him that some people who were supposed to be here are not going to be and that it will be smaller that originally planned, and I planned to leave it at that. husband says, "Are you going to tell them the rest?" I'm annoyed, but it's too late. By now difficult child's ears are burning. husband tells them that we're (actually, he) is thinking about going to his brother's house for dinner (we had been invited to go there, but since I was supposed to cook I declined the invitation. Now he and his parents want to call and invited us all over there). The kids loved the idea. Feeling like I had no choice, I tell husband to talk to his mother about it. The next day I tell husband that I'm annoyed. I told him that I didn't want to change plans, but he decided that was what we were going to do anyway. So he tells the kids that we might not go to his brother's house. OMG!! The temper tantrum from difficult child!! So now I tell husband that it's too late and that we have to go to his brother's because I really don't feel like deaing with the difficult child issues if we don't. mother in law calls me this morning and says that husband's other brother, his wife, and their three kids, are now thinking about coming here for Thanksgiving (they live about 4 hours away), so mother in law says that we might as well just have dinner here. I told her that if they decided to come down here then someone is going to have to deal with my son because I am not going to deal with it. If everyone had just left well enough alone and left the plans that we had the way they were, I would not have to deal with difficult child's tantrums about wanting to go to his aunt's house. mother in law's respose?" "Well, that's not my problem." I called husband at work to tell him about this lastest wrinkle in our Thanksgiving nightmare. He says that we''ll just stay home. Again, I tell him that it's too late because he opened his mouth. husband thinks that difficult child is having fits because he does not want to go to husband's brother's house. Ummm...no!! He WANTS to go and is having ten fits because he knows that I don't want to go. So he says that difficult child won't have any problems with staying home, that he will talk to him about it. Seriously, I just don't believe that husband gets it and that he never, ever will! I just don't see how this can end well. No matter what happens, someone is going to be annoyed. difficult child if we don't go, me if we do, and mother in law is not pleased that I never wanted to go in the first place. I'm just venting because I'm so angry.