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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 368072" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Check with the state laws about that. I believe almost all states make us responsible for feeding and housing kids until they turn 18, then it's up to us. You could get into trouble by kicking out a sixteen year old in most states.</p><p></p><p>If your son is using drugs (my guess is it's more than pot...kids always say it's just pot on the weekends) and if he quit school, he isn't making good decisions with his life and at 18, if you want, you can make him leave, but I don't think you can yet (again, check it out). If he won't come home have the cops bring him home so you don't get into trouble. Also, no matter how big and bad he thinks he is, he isn't safe. All we can do is try.</p><p></p><p>I think it is next to impossible to force a sixteen year old to do what you want him to do if he doesn't want to obey. I was in the same boat with my daughter who took drugs. She would slip out her window at night and run around town, take drugs, hang with whomever she liked and basically didn't care that we stopped giving her money and took away all her things. She did get a job and paid for her own stuff and she graduated high school, but she did those things because SHE wanted to. Since then, she quit taking drugs and is doing well (there is hope!). But I sort of agree that if a child doesn't care if you don't give him money and don't let him use your things, etc. it is very hard to parent him. Just let him know what your intentions are later on if he doesn't shape up, and then the decision is his. At least that's what I'd do. I think he's too old for you to force him into treatment of any sort.</p><p></p><p>I'm really sorry. I soooooooooooooo have been there/done that.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 368072, member: 1550"] Check with the state laws about that. I believe almost all states make us responsible for feeding and housing kids until they turn 18, then it's up to us. You could get into trouble by kicking out a sixteen year old in most states. If your son is using drugs (my guess is it's more than pot...kids always say it's just pot on the weekends) and if he quit school, he isn't making good decisions with his life and at 18, if you want, you can make him leave, but I don't think you can yet (again, check it out). If he won't come home have the cops bring him home so you don't get into trouble. Also, no matter how big and bad he thinks he is, he isn't safe. All we can do is try. I think it is next to impossible to force a sixteen year old to do what you want him to do if he doesn't want to obey. I was in the same boat with my daughter who took drugs. She would slip out her window at night and run around town, take drugs, hang with whomever she liked and basically didn't care that we stopped giving her money and took away all her things. She did get a job and paid for her own stuff and she graduated high school, but she did those things because SHE wanted to. Since then, she quit taking drugs and is doing well (there is hope!). But I sort of agree that if a child doesn't care if you don't give him money and don't let him use your things, etc. it is very hard to parent him. Just let him know what your intentions are later on if he doesn't shape up, and then the decision is his. At least that's what I'd do. I think he's too old for you to force him into treatment of any sort. I'm really sorry. I soooooooooooooo have been there/done that. [/QUOTE]
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