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<blockquote data-quote="bepositive" data-source="post: 368275"><p>Thanks for the advice! Everyone has given me lots to go on, and yours has been the most informative. Luckily,... so far..., right now..., things aren't as bad as they can be. He was very unhappy and lonely at his old school in another town. He was smoking pot periodically and although other kids were drinking, smoking cigarettes, and doing other drugs, it seems (according to his drug tests, his private postings that I've read, and comments from others) that he hasn't done any of those things - yet. He wanted to quit school, but he finished because I insisted, and he got Bs in everything except math. He hasn't stolen yet - from us or anyone else. And we were making good headway with therapy. But now that he's moved away from the old therapist he refuses to start with a new one. His friends in this town (who he knew before going away last year) are all really good kids and are very "anti-drugs" so that's a positive thing, & I'm pretty sure he hasn't smoked pot since coming home - though I still haven't found a testing site. I met with him yesterday morning and explained that I found out online that legally he can't live alone. He has to be with adults - either us or someone else we agree on - and he needed to be home by 10pm or we legally have to call the police. He stormed away and then showed up at home at 10:02pm. </p><p> </p><p>An important note is that everyone outside of our home considers him an amazingly helpful and mature person. He spent the past few days (but not nights) at his girlfriend's home, and her mom keeps telling me that he's a model houseguest. He refused to eat their food because he doesn't want to be a burden and he refused to spend the night for the same reason. He cooked for them, though. He told her he has goals and is excited about life, but when he steps into our home he becomes a monster, lazy, and unmotivated. So at least he recognizes this. Now, just to figure out how to get him back into counseling and also have a full psychiatric evaluation. He just won't do it!</p><p> </p><p>I'm glad to have all of your advice for if/when it continues to slide downhill. I hate the idea of getting involved with the police, but if I need to shake him into reality, I guess I'll need to.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="bepositive, post: 368275"] Thanks for the advice! Everyone has given me lots to go on, and yours has been the most informative. Luckily,... so far..., right now..., things aren't as bad as they can be. He was very unhappy and lonely at his old school in another town. He was smoking pot periodically and although other kids were drinking, smoking cigarettes, and doing other drugs, it seems (according to his drug tests, his private postings that I've read, and comments from others) that he hasn't done any of those things - yet. He wanted to quit school, but he finished because I insisted, and he got Bs in everything except math. He hasn't stolen yet - from us or anyone else. And we were making good headway with therapy. But now that he's moved away from the old therapist he refuses to start with a new one. His friends in this town (who he knew before going away last year) are all really good kids and are very "anti-drugs" so that's a positive thing, & I'm pretty sure he hasn't smoked pot since coming home - though I still haven't found a testing site. I met with him yesterday morning and explained that I found out online that legally he can't live alone. He has to be with adults - either us or someone else we agree on - and he needed to be home by 10pm or we legally have to call the police. He stormed away and then showed up at home at 10:02pm. An important note is that everyone outside of our home considers him an amazingly helpful and mature person. He spent the past few days (but not nights) at his girlfriend's home, and her mom keeps telling me that he's a model houseguest. He refused to eat their food because he doesn't want to be a burden and he refused to spend the night for the same reason. He cooked for them, though. He told her he has goals and is excited about life, but when he steps into our home he becomes a monster, lazy, and unmotivated. So at least he recognizes this. Now, just to figure out how to get him back into counseling and also have a full psychiatric evaluation. He just won't do it! I'm glad to have all of your advice for if/when it continues to slide downhill. I hate the idea of getting involved with the police, but if I need to shake him into reality, I guess I'll need to. [/QUOTE]
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