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<blockquote data-quote="svengandhi" data-source="post: 314566" data-attributes="member: 3493"><p>Michael sounds like my oldest son, who is textbook Aspie. Try reading Asperger's Syndrome by Tony Atwood and look at his website - google him.</p><p></p><p>At least Green Day is a band you can listen to. My son used to obsess over this German techno band, Rammstein.</p><p></p><p>If SF is really where you're located, you might be able to find a HS that would be better for him than parochial school. My son went to an alternative HS geared to Aspies. He had friends, especially when he was your son's age and went through his paint ball phase (he convinced his younger brother to have a paint ball Bar Mitzvah!), kids who didn't care about how annoying his obsessions were because they were busy with their own. Ultimately, he learned to be more tolerant and less vocal about his obsessions.</p><p></p><p>The bright spot (pun intended) is that many Aspies are very bright (uber smart as my Rammstein fan would say) and if they are properly directed can succeed. The bad spot is that they tend to mature later. My son is now 19 and his closest buddy is my 13 year old son. They are each about 16 in maturity level. However, I see so much positive change in my son. He is in college now, though he 's not doing great, he is going and enjoying it. However, from about 16 through 18, he made me crazy. Blowing curfew, dropping out of college, general rudeness. It was the kind of behavior that a neuro-typical 14 to 16 year old displays, but he had a driver's license! If I had it to do over again, I would not encourage him to get his license as soon as he was able, just so I could have controlled his behavior a little bit more. It was hard not to let him drive, because he was also willing to drive his sibs around.</p><p></p><p>Good luck and the best thing to remember is that Michael is NOT doing these things to annoy you (for the most part) but because he doesn't have a different mental model. Some social skills therapy in a group might be beneficial.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="svengandhi, post: 314566, member: 3493"] Michael sounds like my oldest son, who is textbook Aspie. Try reading Asperger's Syndrome by Tony Atwood and look at his website - google him. At least Green Day is a band you can listen to. My son used to obsess over this German techno band, Rammstein. If SF is really where you're located, you might be able to find a HS that would be better for him than parochial school. My son went to an alternative HS geared to Aspies. He had friends, especially when he was your son's age and went through his paint ball phase (he convinced his younger brother to have a paint ball Bar Mitzvah!), kids who didn't care about how annoying his obsessions were because they were busy with their own. Ultimately, he learned to be more tolerant and less vocal about his obsessions. The bright spot (pun intended) is that many Aspies are very bright (uber smart as my Rammstein fan would say) and if they are properly directed can succeed. The bad spot is that they tend to mature later. My son is now 19 and his closest buddy is my 13 year old son. They are each about 16 in maturity level. However, I see so much positive change in my son. He is in college now, though he 's not doing great, he is going and enjoying it. However, from about 16 through 18, he made me crazy. Blowing curfew, dropping out of college, general rudeness. It was the kind of behavior that a neuro-typical 14 to 16 year old displays, but he had a driver's license! If I had it to do over again, I would not encourage him to get his license as soon as he was able, just so I could have controlled his behavior a little bit more. It was hard not to let him drive, because he was also willing to drive his sibs around. Good luck and the best thing to remember is that Michael is NOT doing these things to annoy you (for the most part) but because he doesn't have a different mental model. Some social skills therapy in a group might be beneficial. [/QUOTE]
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