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<blockquote data-quote="LittleDudesMom" data-source="post: 313271" data-attributes="member: 805"><p>Heather,</p><p> </p><p>a couple things I'm thinking...</p><p> </p><p>First, you should be having p/t conferences here pretty soon. The first quarter is half over and I know schools usually have conferences at interim time. So a meeting with the teacher to see how difficult child is doing in class is not of the question. My thinking here is I'm not sure how difficult child reacts to your involvement?</p><p> </p><p>Second obseration - unless you live in an ultra-conservative or really rural area, your daughter should by no means be the odd girl out. I know I live in an urban area, but the goth/emo thing was pretty big around here for a few years. You actually don't see it as much as you used to - the emo/scene thing is not as huge as it was a number of years ago (primarily because the musical influence behind the roots of the emo/scene scene has matured). Goth is something totally different and I don't think it will be going anywhere since it's been around for years and years!</p><p> </p><p>I would imagine this coach has absolutely no idea that he is embarrassing your daughter by singling her out. I think your observation that he thinks she must be ok with it because she is drawing attention to herself by her style of dress and makeup is accurate. I don't understand why she would be considered such an oddity in these days and times.</p><p> </p><p>I would totally speak with him. Perhaps you could pave the way for other kids that take his class by letting him know what your daughter's style is all about. While finding out what's up academically, casually mention that your daughter was embarrassed when he asked her to close her eyes after she gave an oral report. Perhaps he could answer to that - if he seems a little put out or speechless (some teahers may thing the students don't talk to their parents!) you could go on to let him know that your daughter is very sensative. Part of her style of dress has to do with her emotional vulnerability (since that what emo is supposed to be all about!). Let him know that it's a form of expression for her just like long hair was to hippies or low pants (heaven forbid) to young urban males. While it may be a little startling to some, it is not a cry for attention - it is her attempt to find her place. I'm sure he will be receptive.</p><p> </p><p>Good luck.</p><p> </p><p>Sharon</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="LittleDudesMom, post: 313271, member: 805"] Heather, a couple things I'm thinking... First, you should be having p/t conferences here pretty soon. The first quarter is half over and I know schools usually have conferences at interim time. So a meeting with the teacher to see how difficult child is doing in class is not of the question. My thinking here is I'm not sure how difficult child reacts to your involvement? Second obseration - unless you live in an ultra-conservative or really rural area, your daughter should by no means be the odd girl out. I know I live in an urban area, but the goth/emo thing was pretty big around here for a few years. You actually don't see it as much as you used to - the emo/scene thing is not as huge as it was a number of years ago (primarily because the musical influence behind the roots of the emo/scene scene has matured). Goth is something totally different and I don't think it will be going anywhere since it's been around for years and years! I would imagine this coach has absolutely no idea that he is embarrassing your daughter by singling her out. I think your observation that he thinks she must be ok with it because she is drawing attention to herself by her style of dress and makeup is accurate. I don't understand why she would be considered such an oddity in these days and times. I would totally speak with him. Perhaps you could pave the way for other kids that take his class by letting him know what your daughter's style is all about. While finding out what's up academically, casually mention that your daughter was embarrassed when he asked her to close her eyes after she gave an oral report. Perhaps he could answer to that - if he seems a little put out or speechless (some teahers may thing the students don't talk to their parents!) you could go on to let him know that your daughter is very sensative. Part of her style of dress has to do with her emotional vulnerability (since that what emo is supposed to be all about!). Let him know that it's a form of expression for her just like long hair was to hippies or low pants (heaven forbid) to young urban males. While it may be a little startling to some, it is not a cry for attention - it is her attempt to find her place. I'm sure he will be receptive. Good luck. Sharon [/QUOTE]
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