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<blockquote data-quote="LostSF" data-source="post: 359151"><p>Thanks to everyone for welcoming me. It's nice to have someplace to share my story.</p><p></p><p>I've responded to some of the comments below, but I'm still hoping an answer to my questions around getting my SD to take responsibility for her behaviour.</p><p></p><p>We're running out of ways to make her care about the consequences of her actions, and still she continues to break the rules. Nothing major yet thankfully (that we know about, anyway), but she just regularly and almost predictably breaks the rules whenever we're not there to monitor her behaviour.</p><p></p><p>Does anyone have any suggestions on how to reach your child when their response (either through words or actions) is "I don't care" no matter what kind of consequences/restrictions you put on them?</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Thanks dadside. I know which one you mean. I'd actually looked into this a few weeks ago... I'll take your advice and take a closer look. And I'll try to fix my PMs. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite8" alt=":D" title="Big Grin :D" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":D" /></p><p> </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Thank you for your reply KTMom91. Your situation sounds exactly like ours.</p><p></p><p>My wife too has felt very much in the middle. I've tried to stop that or at least reduce it by only talking about the bigger things, and to support her the best I can with the stuff she has to deal with. But it's not easy... for either of us.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>It frightens me to think that this behaviour could go on for another 3+ years. We've been telling ourselves that she'll outgrow it at least a little in a year or two, although I think we both knew that may be naive. But I can't imagine my SD staying the way she is and being able to avoid the traps of drugs, drinking and sex that are soon to come.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>My SD isn't on medication and to be honest I wouldn't know where to start with that. I'm not sure if her issues could be treated with medication... although I'm no expert, I consider her issues to be more along the lines of sociopathic and narcissistic.</p><p></p><p>Sooner or later she offends most if not all of the people she comes into contact with to the point where they don't really want anything to do with her (including teachers, babysitters, grandparents, etc.), but she doesn't have violent outbursts, screaming sessions or anything really tangible that we could use as a rationale for medication. She just has a bad attitude and generally treats people with disrespect. </p><p></p><p>But I don't have high hopes for therapy based on what I've seen, so if there's a chance that medication would help we would consider it. Does anyone know where we would start based on her symptoms/issues?</p></blockquote><p></p><p></p><p> </p><p>My wife and I just had a weekend alone together (SD was at her dad's) and it was wonderful. We felt at peace, we felt connected and we enjoyed life, even though we spent most of the weekend doing yardwork. But as soon as SD came back home, all that disappeared again. But we've agreed to keep holding onto and making the most of the time alone we do get, so we can keep our relationship on track.</p><p>[/QUOTE]</p>
[QUOTE="LostSF, post: 359151"] Thanks to everyone for welcoming me. It's nice to have someplace to share my story. I've responded to some of the comments below, but I'm still hoping an answer to my questions around getting my SD to take responsibility for her behaviour. We're running out of ways to make her care about the consequences of her actions, and still she continues to break the rules. Nothing major yet thankfully (that we know about, anyway), but she just regularly and almost predictably breaks the rules whenever we're not there to monitor her behaviour. Does anyone have any suggestions on how to reach your child when their response (either through words or actions) is "I don't care" no matter what kind of consequences/restrictions you put on them? Thanks dadside. I know which one you mean. I'd actually looked into this a few weeks ago... I'll take your advice and take a closer look. And I'll try to fix my PMs. :happy: Thank you for your reply KTMom91. Your situation sounds exactly like ours. My wife too has felt very much in the middle. I've tried to stop that or at least reduce it by only talking about the bigger things, and to support her the best I can with the stuff she has to deal with. But it's not easy... for either of us. It frightens me to think that this behaviour could go on for another 3+ years. We've been telling ourselves that she'll outgrow it at least a little in a year or two, although I think we both knew that may be naive. But I can't imagine my SD staying the way she is and being able to avoid the traps of drugs, drinking and sex that are soon to come. My SD isn't on medication and to be honest I wouldn't know where to start with that. I'm not sure if her issues could be treated with medication... although I'm no expert, I consider her issues to be more along the lines of sociopathic and narcissistic. Sooner or later she offends most if not all of the people she comes into contact with to the point where they don't really want anything to do with her (including teachers, babysitters, grandparents, etc.), but she doesn't have violent outbursts, screaming sessions or anything really tangible that we could use as a rationale for medication. She just has a bad attitude and generally treats people with disrespect. But I don't have high hopes for therapy based on what I've seen, so if there's a chance that medication would help we would consider it. Does anyone know where we would start based on her symptoms/issues?[/QUOTE] My wife and I just had a weekend alone together (SD was at her dad's) and it was wonderful. We felt at peace, we felt connected and we enjoyed life, even though we spent most of the weekend doing yardwork. But as soon as SD came back home, all that disappeared again. But we've agreed to keep holding onto and making the most of the time alone we do get, so we can keep our relationship on track. [/QUOTE]
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