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Hi family,
With all that has been going on lately (see post on Watercooler) I nearly forgot about a meeting for this Friday afternoon regarding Aly and getting her qualified for Far Northern Services, a kind of advanced, lifetime support with access to better care, life skills classes, etc.
A little background: I tried getting her accepted into this program a few years back but husband was making too much money at that time and Aly's then school was NOT helpful at all with their sharing of info.
I worked my tail off trying to get her qualified, like 6 weeks worth of info gathering, meetings, etc.
Long story, longer husband was encouraged by Aly's therapist to try again since her disabilities have gotten so much worse and the EEG shows definite Temporal Lobe Epilepsy, and the new developments of the separation of husband and I. Aly seems to be totally unaffected by the changes in her life, I mean why would she, she has husband all to herself, attending to her every need and want.
Anyways, husband wants me to be at this meeting that is destined to be 3-4 hours long, I have a 2 hour drive to get there as well. And...each and every attempt I have made at suggesting things husband to try with Aly have either been ignored or thrown back in my face.
The only reason he wants me there is that he was so uninvolved during alot of Aly's "stuff" that he is worried he will not remember important things. I have sent him a very updated Parent Report, he has copies of every test, every hospitalization, every lab test, etc. If there are truly things he can't answer, I am a phone call away.
I know this probably sounds horrible to most of you, me not wanting to be a part of this in Aly's life. But, I am truly emotionally and physically exhausted and frustrated with not being listened to by husband. And now he wants me to race back there to fill in the gaps that he SHOULD know already to work like crazy AGAIN to get more help for Aly that I am not even convinced he will take advantage of.
He has been so mean and horrible and rude to me lately that I can hardly speak to him on the phone, let alone see him face to face.
I have spoken to therapist, who will also be at the meeting, and he understands my position and agrees that it is not totally necessary for me to be there to get Aly approved. As long as husband gives the program director all the paperwork I made available to him, and as long as husband doesn't "rose-colored glasses" everything, therapist feels she will get approved. Might even be better if I do not attend. You know, the poor single dad, trying to raise the poor little special needs kiddo thing.
I don't know, I am feeling guilty and pulled to attend, I worked so hard for sooo many years to get Aly all the supports she has already. If I had left it up to husband, I have no idea where we'd be.
Anyways, guess I am just venting and feeling guilty and not sure what to do.
Thanks for reading, if you made it this far!!
Hugs,
Vickie
With all that has been going on lately (see post on Watercooler) I nearly forgot about a meeting for this Friday afternoon regarding Aly and getting her qualified for Far Northern Services, a kind of advanced, lifetime support with access to better care, life skills classes, etc.
A little background: I tried getting her accepted into this program a few years back but husband was making too much money at that time and Aly's then school was NOT helpful at all with their sharing of info.
I worked my tail off trying to get her qualified, like 6 weeks worth of info gathering, meetings, etc.
Long story, longer husband was encouraged by Aly's therapist to try again since her disabilities have gotten so much worse and the EEG shows definite Temporal Lobe Epilepsy, and the new developments of the separation of husband and I. Aly seems to be totally unaffected by the changes in her life, I mean why would she, she has husband all to herself, attending to her every need and want.
Anyways, husband wants me to be at this meeting that is destined to be 3-4 hours long, I have a 2 hour drive to get there as well. And...each and every attempt I have made at suggesting things husband to try with Aly have either been ignored or thrown back in my face.
The only reason he wants me there is that he was so uninvolved during alot of Aly's "stuff" that he is worried he will not remember important things. I have sent him a very updated Parent Report, he has copies of every test, every hospitalization, every lab test, etc. If there are truly things he can't answer, I am a phone call away.
I know this probably sounds horrible to most of you, me not wanting to be a part of this in Aly's life. But, I am truly emotionally and physically exhausted and frustrated with not being listened to by husband. And now he wants me to race back there to fill in the gaps that he SHOULD know already to work like crazy AGAIN to get more help for Aly that I am not even convinced he will take advantage of.
He has been so mean and horrible and rude to me lately that I can hardly speak to him on the phone, let alone see him face to face.
I have spoken to therapist, who will also be at the meeting, and he understands my position and agrees that it is not totally necessary for me to be there to get Aly approved. As long as husband gives the program director all the paperwork I made available to him, and as long as husband doesn't "rose-colored glasses" everything, therapist feels she will get approved. Might even be better if I do not attend. You know, the poor single dad, trying to raise the poor little special needs kiddo thing.
I don't know, I am feeling guilty and pulled to attend, I worked so hard for sooo many years to get Aly all the supports she has already. If I had left it up to husband, I have no idea where we'd be.
Anyways, guess I am just venting and feeling guilty and not sure what to do.
Thanks for reading, if you made it this far!!
Hugs,
Vickie