DDD
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difficult child#1 (previously known as easy child/difficult child sigh!) really seems to be getting hooked on his new girlfriend. I can't explain how shocking it is to me. on the other hand I guess I shouldn't be shocked. This evening it just kinda hit me. He's "hooking up" with an older difficult child whose strongest attribute is that she works full time and is caring and generous towards him.
I totally know that this issue isn't as severe as when he was in jail or when he was throwing up from alcohol excess or certainly when he had brain surgery because he plunged three stories while under the influence and landed on the sidewalk. I "know" that but my mind is having a really hard time wrapping around the fact that he would be in a relationship with an unattractive woman (yeah, I know beauty is only skin deep..sigh) who has three children who are being raised by her parents. WTH! Doesn't that sound alot like GFGmom??
She is a recreational pot smoker who drinks. He seems honestly "smitten". I really think this is going to be a mega test of my parenting skills. I know I have to stifle my concerns or disappointment. This is difficult. It's like when I had to accept that my easy child was a easy child/difficult child and then..later..felt I had to drop the easy child altogether even though he acts like a easy child around me because at 24 he openly tells everyone that "I love my Mama more than anyone in the world." Yeah, girlfriend knows this too.
Yeah...this is a vent or a release valve for the accumulated emotions. I never in the world thought he would not graduate from high school and college. I never in the world thought he would be a felon. I never in the world thought he would be a major underachiever. Lordy, Lordy I never imagined that I might have a daughter in law whom I would have to force myself to accept. Geez! And, Yuk! What a life! DDD
I totally know that this issue isn't as severe as when he was in jail or when he was throwing up from alcohol excess or certainly when he had brain surgery because he plunged three stories while under the influence and landed on the sidewalk. I "know" that but my mind is having a really hard time wrapping around the fact that he would be in a relationship with an unattractive woman (yeah, I know beauty is only skin deep..sigh) who has three children who are being raised by her parents. WTH! Doesn't that sound alot like GFGmom??
She is a recreational pot smoker who drinks. He seems honestly "smitten". I really think this is going to be a mega test of my parenting skills. I know I have to stifle my concerns or disappointment. This is difficult. It's like when I had to accept that my easy child was a easy child/difficult child and then..later..felt I had to drop the easy child altogether even though he acts like a easy child around me because at 24 he openly tells everyone that "I love my Mama more than anyone in the world." Yeah, girlfriend knows this too.
Yeah...this is a vent or a release valve for the accumulated emotions. I never in the world thought he would not graduate from high school and college. I never in the world thought he would be a felon. I never in the world thought he would be a major underachiever. Lordy, Lordy I never imagined that I might have a daughter in law whom I would have to force myself to accept. Geez! And, Yuk! What a life! DDD