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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 309143" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>mog, I felt similar to this after spending 2 years fighting to keep my son from being locked up, fighting others blaming me, going thru a custody case with extended family who wanted to take my son but for their own selfish reasons, only to end up feeling like my son then turned against me and he got locked up anyway. I was a ball of mixed emotions with no job and financially wiped out. I too had to go a month without even speaking to my son and I spent most of it crying and venting on this board. Somehow, thru all that I was able to slowly start sorting thru all those mixed feelings and now my son and I are concentrating on where to go from here- both as individuals who are responsible for ourselves and in regards to mending our relationship.</p><p></p><p>It is very hard to face this- it's like putting the empty nest syndrome together with an unexpected tragic loss while feeling betrayed and like our efforts were for nothing and it feels devastating. But you are not alone and if you can hang in there, it will get better. If you feel like you can't hang on, then by all means, call a crisis center and talk some of this out with someone in person. We all need a shoulder and an ear sometimes.</p><p></p><p>Remember that just because the situation is this way now doesn't mean that your son no longer needs you- he does. And he needs to see you get thru this a day at a time and not give up. They say that we teach our children how to work thru things by pulling ourselves up by the bootstraps when we have to and I'm starting to believe that.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 309143, member: 3699"] mog, I felt similar to this after spending 2 years fighting to keep my son from being locked up, fighting others blaming me, going thru a custody case with extended family who wanted to take my son but for their own selfish reasons, only to end up feeling like my son then turned against me and he got locked up anyway. I was a ball of mixed emotions with no job and financially wiped out. I too had to go a month without even speaking to my son and I spent most of it crying and venting on this board. Somehow, thru all that I was able to slowly start sorting thru all those mixed feelings and now my son and I are concentrating on where to go from here- both as individuals who are responsible for ourselves and in regards to mending our relationship. It is very hard to face this- it's like putting the empty nest syndrome together with an unexpected tragic loss while feeling betrayed and like our efforts were for nothing and it feels devastating. But you are not alone and if you can hang in there, it will get better. If you feel like you can't hang on, then by all means, call a crisis center and talk some of this out with someone in person. We all need a shoulder and an ear sometimes. Remember that just because the situation is this way now doesn't mean that your son no longer needs you- he does. And he needs to see you get thru this a day at a time and not give up. They say that we teach our children how to work thru things by pulling ourselves up by the bootstraps when we have to and I'm starting to believe that. [/QUOTE]
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