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<blockquote data-quote="Shari" data-source="post: 331079" data-attributes="member: 1848"><p>Yup, read the mars/venus book and realize the sexes don't communicate the same. I promise I do. He's a physical person and I am not. (and let me tell ya, nothing makes you feel the love quite like picking up a weeks worth of underwear and socks (which you have to crawl under the computer desk to get to) and a few plates and curdled glasses of milk off the book shelves) I have said that I can not keep going, have explained that I find it desrespectful to me, etc. I rarely get any response from him. If I push for a response, A) he gets angry, he heard me, that should be sufficient. B) I get the "I'll work on it", and he might make an effort to put the dishes in the dishwasher the next day, but that will be it.</p><p> </p><p>He readily admits he doesn't like routine maintenance and he doesn't know how to do it, and in his mind, that's reason enough not to. His mom and dad's place is a stye. He grew up in it and it just doesn't phase him much. And he's never had to take care of himself, which I get. But it bothers him enough that he tries to hide it from our friends. </p><p> </p><p>Somehow I need to get thru his head that total disregard in the vast majority if the routine facets in our lives <em>will</em> lead to complete burnout, and while housework isn't enough to split over, repeatedly driving vehicles that you don't pay for into the ground might be.</p><p> </p><p>Don't take out the trash cause it stinks. Fine. But don't leave glasses of milk to curdle in the book shelf and raw meat in the sink all weekend! Pretend you don't know where the sheets are stored when its time to change them. Fine! But don't "check the oil" in the car by waiting til the low oil light comes on! Don't contribute to the family's budget. That's fine. But don't complain to me how broke you are when you just turn up the heat while leaving the windows and doors open and expect me to just "pay the bill"... And for God's sakes, don't whine to me that your truck doesn't have a transmission after you pull out onto the highway in mine, low on transmission fluid, which you are AWARE OF, and just repeatedly rev it up to red line to try to make it go so you don't have to mess with adding fluid... I mean, come on already... I'm not asking for the world here.</p><p> </p><p>The "new" car I bought? Has not checked the oil or trans fluid in it one time. Not once. And HE went to mechanic school!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Shari, post: 331079, member: 1848"] Yup, read the mars/venus book and realize the sexes don't communicate the same. I promise I do. He's a physical person and I am not. (and let me tell ya, nothing makes you feel the love quite like picking up a weeks worth of underwear and socks (which you have to crawl under the computer desk to get to) and a few plates and curdled glasses of milk off the book shelves) I have said that I can not keep going, have explained that I find it desrespectful to me, etc. I rarely get any response from him. If I push for a response, A) he gets angry, he heard me, that should be sufficient. B) I get the "I'll work on it", and he might make an effort to put the dishes in the dishwasher the next day, but that will be it. He readily admits he doesn't like routine maintenance and he doesn't know how to do it, and in his mind, that's reason enough not to. His mom and dad's place is a stye. He grew up in it and it just doesn't phase him much. And he's never had to take care of himself, which I get. But it bothers him enough that he tries to hide it from our friends. Somehow I need to get thru his head that total disregard in the vast majority if the routine facets in our lives [I]will[/I] lead to complete burnout, and while housework isn't enough to split over, repeatedly driving vehicles that you don't pay for into the ground might be. Don't take out the trash cause it stinks. Fine. But don't leave glasses of milk to curdle in the book shelf and raw meat in the sink all weekend! Pretend you don't know where the sheets are stored when its time to change them. Fine! But don't "check the oil" in the car by waiting til the low oil light comes on! Don't contribute to the family's budget. That's fine. But don't complain to me how broke you are when you just turn up the heat while leaving the windows and doors open and expect me to just "pay the bill"... And for God's sakes, don't whine to me that your truck doesn't have a transmission after you pull out onto the highway in mine, low on transmission fluid, which you are AWARE OF, and just repeatedly rev it up to red line to try to make it go so you don't have to mess with adding fluid... I mean, come on already... I'm not asking for the world here. The "new" car I bought? Has not checked the oil or trans fluid in it one time. Not once. And HE went to mechanic school! [/QUOTE]
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