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<blockquote data-quote="Shari" data-source="post: 331180" data-attributes="member: 1848"><p>Maybe I should just destroy the list and forget about it. I wasn't nearly as angry about it til I found it.</p><p> </p><p>But that doesn't seem right, either, 'cause this isn't "new" information, not the first time I've griped about the balance of labor in my home...just the first time I realized that some of the things he does, DEX also did, and I swore I wouldn't put up with it again.</p><p> </p><p>Wee's in-home introduced me to the love languages several years ago. I've never read the book, but she had excerpts that we went thru. I rely a lot on the Four Agreements when dealing with people with a different "story" and it always helps knowing where people come from. Collectively, we could never understand why husband put up with his ex when they were together because she yelled at him non-stop without regard to where they were or who could hear...now that we know his mom? We understand. BOY do I ever understand...</p><p> </p><p>Accomplishments on the list? There's not all that many to check off. </p><p> </p><p>But I will talk to him again. Gotta admit, tho, I don't expect a lot to change. I don't know what to say differently so that he'll understand where <em>I'm </em>coming from.</p><p> </p><p>So then I'll either just keep on with the status quo and try to forget the list...or not.</p><p> </p><p>I guess maybe the list has me thinking that I'd have more money and less work if it was just me again. Which is what I unexpectedly discovered when DEX left, and isn't a good train of thought to entertain at all.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Shari, post: 331180, member: 1848"] Maybe I should just destroy the list and forget about it. I wasn't nearly as angry about it til I found it. But that doesn't seem right, either, 'cause this isn't "new" information, not the first time I've griped about the balance of labor in my home...just the first time I realized that some of the things he does, DEX also did, and I swore I wouldn't put up with it again. Wee's in-home introduced me to the love languages several years ago. I've never read the book, but she had excerpts that we went thru. I rely a lot on the Four Agreements when dealing with people with a different "story" and it always helps knowing where people come from. Collectively, we could never understand why husband put up with his ex when they were together because she yelled at him non-stop without regard to where they were or who could hear...now that we know his mom? We understand. BOY do I ever understand... Accomplishments on the list? There's not all that many to check off. But I will talk to him again. Gotta admit, tho, I don't expect a lot to change. I don't know what to say differently so that he'll understand where [I]I'm [/I]coming from. So then I'll either just keep on with the status quo and try to forget the list...or not. I guess maybe the list has me thinking that I'd have more money and less work if it was just me again. Which is what I unexpectedly discovered when DEX left, and isn't a good train of thought to entertain at all. [/QUOTE]
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