Hello, I just came upon this support forum for parents of children with behavioural problems. I am a married mother of 2 girls, both were adopted at fairly young ages. My oldest does not give me a difficult time where I cannot handle her; my youngest on the other hand....there is always conflict in our home. She is defiant and I almost think she intentionally tries to cause problems. I don't know how to handle her little meltdowns. She tells me all the time "I can do what I want" if something doesn't go her way she runs to her bedroom and slams the door. She either hides under her blankets or sits in the corner of her bed. I have tried talking to her and holding her, but after 5 minutes she just goes back to her fit. She is a very smart little girl in school and is a beautiful little girl, I love her and her sister so much...but truth be told she is just driving a wedge between my husband, older daughter and I. Some days I want to just burst into tears when she behaves like this. She told me the other day that "I was not her mother, the lady that carried her in her tummy is her real mother". That hurt so bad, I nearly lost it...I have come to realize that she is a troubled little girl that needs help. I have an appointment for a child psychiatrist for her, but I have another month to go...does anyone have any suggestions as to how I can help this child understand that she is and always has been wanted and loved very much? Any help would be appreciated.