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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 745955" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I dont blame you.for thinking Chicago is bad for him and think you are wise not to.pay for him to go. Not just to Chicago. Anywhere. You have put out enough money. Let him find a way to travel if he wants to leave.</p><p></p><p>As you know, most of us are trying to focus on our own lives. Its not easy totdo when our child is struggling but the fact is....you nailed it. Until your sons heart and soul wants a better life, it doesnt matter if he is in Florida, Chicago, Timbuctu or on Mars. His location wont change him. He will. Or not. Hopefully will.</p><p></p><p>I know you dont like his ex but the fact is that in even small cities, like mine, there are plenty of nice looking meth users that your son can hook up with if that is what he does and is attracted to. Like attracts like.</p><p></p><p> There is no safe haven from potential romantic interests for our addicted adult kids who use drugs. If its not ex in Chicago it could well be Y in.Florida. And as you said he is constantly around your home/sancuary in Florida yet continuing the same path. He can find a pizza job almost anywhere too. They are everywhere.</p><p></p><p>Son's close proximity impacts your peace of mind. You have lived a long life and loved your son since his first breath. Would it be so bad to have a break?</p><p></p><p>In the end it is his choice to stay or go and your decision whether ro accept his choice or be miserable over him. It wont help him one bit if you let yourself suffer.</p><p></p><p>Please dont get overly involved and that includes doling out more money. You deserve to enjoy your life and NOT enjoying it wont make your son better.</p><p></p><p>I hope you and your husband have a peaceful night.</p><p></p><p>Love and light!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 745955, member: 1550"] I dont blame you.for thinking Chicago is bad for him and think you are wise not to.pay for him to go. Not just to Chicago. Anywhere. You have put out enough money. Let him find a way to travel if he wants to leave. As you know, most of us are trying to focus on our own lives. Its not easy totdo when our child is struggling but the fact is....you nailed it. Until your sons heart and soul wants a better life, it doesnt matter if he is in Florida, Chicago, Timbuctu or on Mars. His location wont change him. He will. Or not. Hopefully will. I know you dont like his ex but the fact is that in even small cities, like mine, there are plenty of nice looking meth users that your son can hook up with if that is what he does and is attracted to. Like attracts like. There is no safe haven from potential romantic interests for our addicted adult kids who use drugs. If its not ex in Chicago it could well be Y in.Florida. And as you said he is constantly around your home/sancuary in Florida yet continuing the same path. He can find a pizza job almost anywhere too. They are everywhere. Son's close proximity impacts your peace of mind. You have lived a long life and loved your son since his first breath. Would it be so bad to have a break? In the end it is his choice to stay or go and your decision whether ro accept his choice or be miserable over him. It wont help him one bit if you let yourself suffer. Please dont get overly involved and that includes doling out more money. You deserve to enjoy your life and NOT enjoying it wont make your son better. I hope you and your husband have a peaceful night. Love and light! [/QUOTE]
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