Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Substance Abuse
Not the way I wanted her birthday to be
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="Nancy" data-source="post: 536658" data-attributes="member: 59"><p>Sig we are struggling with what is right for us and our difficult child's and there are no easy answers.</p><p></p><p>difficult child got her ticket downtown when she went for her interview with her employer. Our downtown parking is ridiculous., she had to use a meter and it expired because she was in longer than she thought. I made her send me a picture of the ticket and I verified this info. She wasn't out drinking or somewhere she shouldn't be. If I didn't pay the ticket and she couldn't renew her license she wouldn't be able to work and right now she is working two jobs and staying out of trouble. If she had gotten a DUI or underage drinking ticket that would have been different. Like I say I am struggling with how far to help her when she is trying to do the right thing.</p><p></p><p>I am not going to make her stop drinking, only she can do that. And she is not going to do that right now. She just turned 21 and she needs to feel that she has had all the fun that all her peers are having. Until she experiences that and probably the consequences of that nothing will change. It is really naive of us to think she is going to stop at this point in her life. If her drinking interferes with her job and she gets fired it is on her. </p><p></p><p>And so I need to do what I feel is right at the time. I am hoping that she is learning some of the life lessons that she is confronted with. It's all I can do. </p><p></p><p>BW thanks for thinking of me on your difficult child's special day and you should be so proud of her. I am hurting that I can't share her right of passage.</p><p></p><p>Nancy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nancy, post: 536658, member: 59"] Sig we are struggling with what is right for us and our difficult child's and there are no easy answers. difficult child got her ticket downtown when she went for her interview with her employer. Our downtown parking is ridiculous., she had to use a meter and it expired because she was in longer than she thought. I made her send me a picture of the ticket and I verified this info. She wasn't out drinking or somewhere she shouldn't be. If I didn't pay the ticket and she couldn't renew her license she wouldn't be able to work and right now she is working two jobs and staying out of trouble. If she had gotten a DUI or underage drinking ticket that would have been different. Like I say I am struggling with how far to help her when she is trying to do the right thing. I am not going to make her stop drinking, only she can do that. And she is not going to do that right now. She just turned 21 and she needs to feel that she has had all the fun that all her peers are having. Until she experiences that and probably the consequences of that nothing will change. It is really naive of us to think she is going to stop at this point in her life. If her drinking interferes with her job and she gets fired it is on her. And so I need to do what I feel is right at the time. I am hoping that she is learning some of the life lessons that she is confronted with. It's all I can do. BW thanks for thinking of me on your difficult child's special day and you should be so proud of her. I am hurting that I can't share her right of passage. Nancy [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Substance Abuse
Not the way I wanted her birthday to be
Top