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Not the way I wanted her birthday to be
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<blockquote data-quote="lovemysons" data-source="post: 536789" data-attributes="member: 3305"><p>Nancy, </p><p>Another here that LOVES the card! I think it says to difficult child that she can/is capable of giving these things...Wisdom, Success, Happiness to herself. It is so hard I know, for me and others here, to differentiate between "Love" and giving. </p><p>I have often equated the two as one in the same. But they are not when it comes to our difficult child alcoholic/addicts. As we all have heard...Enabling kills. </p><p>Yet I don't think paying the ticket was enabling the disease...as difficult child is working. She is trying to be a productive member of society in that regard. </p><p></p><p>I hope your difficult child's birthday party at your home is pleasant and happy. </p><p>I understand how it is bittersweet too. We want to have "normal milestones" with them. Sharing a drink on a 21st birthday would seem totally appropriate in most cases...but not with our difficult child's. Maybe you could make difficult child a "virgin" coctail of sorts, smile. I dunno...just thinking, maybe I'm wrong, maybe that's silly. </p><p></p><p>I hope difficult child will not "celebrate" her birthday with "friends" tonight in a negative way. </p><p>I hope she will grow into the person that you know she can be someday...the one you never give up on and continue to believe in. </p><p></p><p>with love and care, </p><p>LMS</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="lovemysons, post: 536789, member: 3305"] Nancy, Another here that LOVES the card! I think it says to difficult child that she can/is capable of giving these things...Wisdom, Success, Happiness to herself. It is so hard I know, for me and others here, to differentiate between "Love" and giving. I have often equated the two as one in the same. But they are not when it comes to our difficult child alcoholic/addicts. As we all have heard...Enabling kills. Yet I don't think paying the ticket was enabling the disease...as difficult child is working. She is trying to be a productive member of society in that regard. I hope your difficult child's birthday party at your home is pleasant and happy. I understand how it is bittersweet too. We want to have "normal milestones" with them. Sharing a drink on a 21st birthday would seem totally appropriate in most cases...but not with our difficult child's. Maybe you could make difficult child a "virgin" coctail of sorts, smile. I dunno...just thinking, maybe I'm wrong, maybe that's silly. I hope difficult child will not "celebrate" her birthday with "friends" tonight in a negative way. I hope she will grow into the person that you know she can be someday...the one you never give up on and continue to believe in. with love and care, LMS [/QUOTE]
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